Why do I keep going back to my toxic relationship?

Maybe you miss the physical affection...but dont worry! That's okay, everyone's experienced that at least once. Try to forget them, burn pictures and delete chats and work on realizing how bad they really are... this will help you realize and keep yourself from getting hurt over and over... trust me I've been the same situation, I know how hard it must be... but dont worry you'll get trough this.. we can set up daily meetings and I can help you get through this step by step and day by day...if that's what you'd want of cours. :) How are you feeling ?

After a few months, I realised that losing you wasn’t really a loss. Losing you made sense. Losing you was inevitable. I lost you because I never really had you. You were never really mine, you were always searching for something away from me you were always thinking of someone else when you were with me. I lost you because I would’ve lost who I was if I held onto you. I lost you to find myself. See, I learned that it’s better to lose some people than to hold on to the hope of them coming back, because a person who doesn’t want to lose you, will never let you slip away. But you didn’t fight. You didn’t try. And in turn, you made my decision for me. You made it easier for me to think of losing you as another way to find myself another way to save myself. And for the first time, you made me realise that not every person you lose is a loss and that losing can sometimes be winning. For the first time, you made me realise that losing someone is sometimes the only way to love yourself. For the first time, you made me realise there is so much more to be found in losing someone who was never meant to stay. Losing you was hard, but keeping you was harder. Losing you was a lesson but not a loss. Losing you was my favourite win.

Sometimes it is due to the familiarity because that's the only relationship you know of and the need to feel wanted and have that attention. Sometimes it could be due to the shame and guilt. The feeling like you don't deserve happiness and to be loved by others. Depending on the toxic relationship, the other party can make you feel like you can't live without them and that no one else would accept you but that person. It could also be scary because you are not sure what a normal relationship is like and when you find yourself in one, you become unsure and confused because you are not used to feeling loved and being cared for.

Because it's easy and comfortable. Our heart responds to what feels good in the present, our mind knows what's best for us. From personal experience, listen to your mind. Make hard decisions. Cut yourself off and let yourself feel your new reality. Yes it will suck at first, it will hurt a lot, but soon after, new opportunities and positivity will flow into your life. The temporary pain is worth it in the long run and once you get through the hard part you will thank yourself for making that decision and be a new, better you. May you finally get the peace you so truly desire.

In my past I kept on going back to my toxic ex to feel love. I have found I search for acceptance where I have been rejected. I have peers that love me and it's hard to accept that love unless everyone likes me is how I viewed it in my past. I know now that not everyone will like me and that is okay. It's healthy to let go of the past to make a new normal. My ex used to come back in my life and waffle between another woman and myself. It hurt but once I finally realized it's not healthy and that I need to find someone that loves me for me and not the idea of me, it was really healing.

I think you might feel terrible about going back to your toxic relationship, I did the same few years ago. I guess it is just our love for the other person that even if we cannot totally forgive them we find reasons and excuses to justify their actions, that what bad they did to us is not more than the love we share. I realized it after a long time I shouldn't be justifying something toxic and deep beneath I knew, my instincts told me that I was doing wrong but we still do it regardless of thinking about ourselves. I think one more reason that we go back to our toxic relationship is we never loved ourselves enough or we were never loved the right way so we accept whatever comes to us named as love, we are supposed to be loved the right way everyone deserves that. We just need to realize our worth to take up the courage and walk away from what is not good for us.

You value the feelings you get when you and your toxic partner had good times. You would rather suffer through pain then be alone. This you hopefully will get over with time, but it does take separation.

Maybe because you're still not moving on and that makes you remembering those happy, memorable memories than the sad ones.

Sometimes it hurts you, supposedly you should leave that sadness and start a new one. But you can't move on because you are already got used to him/her.

Because the heart gets used to it and we feel that maybe we deserve to be in one, or that somehow the stuff that goes wrong with the relationship is our fault. All thanks to the abusive freak we stay in the relationship with.