Why do I get over people so easily?

I can get over people by overcoming adversity and developing the tools to make overarching goals smaller. This means that I need to be able to have an overarching biological, social and psychological network that includes family, friends, teachers, community members and more. For example, having a friend to talk to while undergoing Cognitive Behavioural Therapy, a social worker to talk to, journal writing, article writing, art therapy, medication management and many more. To get over someone isn't easy, but coping with it through others makes it much more manageble and easier to understand. Therefore, a social network is vital.

I get over people easily because I have clear expectations of what I will and will not tolerate when it comes to my friendships. I know how I want and deserve to be treated. If I am not being treated as I would like to be then I try to have a conversation with the person that is contributing to making me feel like the friendship is being abused. If I am not happy with the way the conversation has transpired I then have a choice as to whether I wish to put any more time or energy into a relationship that may not be mutually beneficial.

Perhaps you never really opened up to them? Or maybe you already have a robust social network that makes you feel secure and confident enough to feel as though you can carry on okay without them. It could be that you are suffering, but are good at tolerating the suffering because you know that in the long run things will improve. It could be that you think you are not suffering, but actually you are suffering, and just haven't worked out how to process/deal with the emotion yet. I couldn't say which of these answers are correct, but if it's something you're concerned about, it could help to read about other people and how they deal with getting over people, and/or talk to friends, family or a therapist about how you relate to others. If it doesn't concern you, and your apparent ambivalence isn't causing problems for anyone, then maybe you don't need to worry about it!

I get over people so easily because the breakup usually happens when both of you have reached a point where the relationship has become toxic for each other. Either that or it was not a real one to begin with. This means it's that you realise that the other person is not good for you or you're not good for the other person and it's best for both if you separated. It hurts for a while and then you start seeing things from a different perspective. This helps. Talking to your close friends, opening up about it, expressing everything to someone also helps me get over someone.

It's a part of knowing who you want in your life and how your heart just knows who will stay and who won't. The people who come in and out of your life came for a reason, whether it's to help you grow or to make you realize something. Of all things, it's about figuring out where you stand and where your journey continues and the people that are no longer in your life shouldn't hold you back from moving on, and getting over them easily is okay. In a way it opens up new paths for better opportunities and new memories to make in your life.

In short, I get over people easily when I am self aware of my emotions and thoughts, and understand the feelings of people around me. To cite an example, I have had times when people treated me unfairly. I was juggling between two jobs, and was also drafting up university application. It was an immensely stressful period for me, since I also had to deal with the fact that I did badly for my second round of exams. It was a constant toughness, I worked from 5am to 11pm, and napped in between my breaks. One evening, a colleague entered the room and saw my belongings splattered across the table. I was working on my application essay, my laptop bag and research materials spread all over the work table. He took it upon me, and gave me a lecture with a condescending tone, asking me if I had any respect for the workplace and myself. I think he crossed the line when he commented that my own bedroom is probably as messy as this, and it hit a nerve really badly. I never talked back to him, nor confronted him about that. Because, while my colleagues were busy defending me and arguing with him, I noticed his frustration with the workplace and the anger directed at me that night was not meant for me, but the first shift at work. I just nodded my head throughout while they bickered, slowing down to a consensus. The event was over, it was over. It took me a while to recover since he struck a nerve related to my emotional trauma, but I got over him. I was aware of my built up exhaustion coupled with my emotions all the while - me being scared, me feeling unjust, angry, hurt, disappointment in myself for not speaking up, but more importantly, I knew if I spoke up then, it would have worsened the situation. I am also aware that he was frustrated, so I focused all my energy on understanding where it was stemming from. I saw two sides of the coin, and I recognised that what happened was not personal, and is not meant to be. I separated myself from the situation to evaluate my emotions, versus others. There is simply nothing to hold grudges for, as it does not solve anything.

Everyone has to let someone go at some point during their lives. Just realize that some people aren't meant to be in your life for long, but only for a short amount of time :) Getting over someone easily isn't a bad thing. In fact, it's good that you don't give yourself too hard of a time for letting go of a particular person. You can't hold onto the past for so long that it affects your future. Live your life, love yourself, and just realize that some people are not meant to stay in your life and that's perfectly ok.

Getting over someone often gets confused with just forgetting about them. I believe getting over someone is the same as moving on which means being okay with what happened and accepting that it happened. So you need to see for yourself if you have actually thought about the people you met in your lifr and accepted that whatever were between you is over or if you only dismissed it. If you don't think that you have dismissed it and think you have really moved on then there's the explanation you never really cared about them. Then there's the other explanation that you don't really know how to express your feelingd thus making you feel you are over them when in fact you aren't.

Ones character is judged before-hand, once you get to know the person and their character the reality is hard to accept. As well as looking for something new every time and becoming bored with the same old individual, which results in the lack of attachment to an individual and makes it easier to get over. When first meeting an individual, they are like a new toy once the same time is done being played with they lose attachment till they forget or in this case move on and lose the feeling they once had for a person, just to find a different individual as a way of distraction

Getting over people easily can depend on the situation. I know I tend to get over people easier when I feel like either I put more work into the relationship (platonic or romantic) than the other person, they take advantage of our relationship, or they violated the terms of our relationship. If it feels unhealthy or unfair, I don't feel as bad when we disconnect for whatever reason. This is how I respond so this might be relatable, but it's okay if it isn't. Everybody is different and pretty much everybody experiences being out of the box sometime (I haven't met anyone that can say they haven't). So, generally speaking, getting over people easily might not be abnormal, but I can't speak to your exact situation. If it is something that you feel uncomfortable with, that's a problem. What helps me keep relationships that don't apply to norm of my ridding of unhealthy relationships because it's a relationship I value is keeping in touch. My family, for example, are people I want to maintain relationships with, but we can drift apart if we're not careful and forget to purposefully reach out. That being said, I won't take the blame if the relationship still isn't as strong because their not doing their part. That's on them and I will call them out on it respectfully so I'm not stuck in a one sided relationship. It's work, but it's rewarding for me when doing so maintains a strong foundation that lasts a lifetime.