Why do I freak out in relationships so easily?

There are multitude of reasons why you could freak out in relationships. 1.Trauma from past relationships 2. Lack of control or feeling like you are losing autonomy or control 3. Fear of abandonment 4. Dreading commitment because monogamy might just not be for you. 5. Fear of being co-dependant. 6 Afraid you will not be good enough for the person you are with. 7. Issues with vulnerability and intimacy due to your upbringing or the environment you grew up in. 8. Trust issues 9. Worried there is lack of effort or reciprocity from you significant other. 10. Low self esteem or (and) being too self conscious

It's normal to feel this way in a relationship from time to time, especially if you're still new to it all. Society often romanticizes the phenomenon by making it seem like everything should always go smoothly between two partners. But in reality, conflict is inevitable, and it's perfectly fine to have moments where you might feel uncertain about a situation. After all, we're all human and nobody is perfect. Being in a relationship requires you to be vulnerable and show your partner sides of you that you haven't shown to anyone else before. You may also experience entirely new things. Perhaps you feel things are moving too fast, or there are thoughts and feelings you are experiencing for the first time that you don't quite know how to process. Maybe there are some self-esteem issues at play as well; I know when I had my first more intimate relationship, my insecurities would often get the best of me and make me question every little thing I did or my partner did. A fear of losing the other person can make you excessively preoccupied with every detail, significant or not. All in all, relationships can be so daunting and even uncomfortable to deal with at times, but that's okay. You are still learning about yourself and your partner; bonds and trust take time to build. What's important is that you and your partner are able to openly communicate and respect each other's boundaries. Honesty and a willingness to understand the other person can go a long way in easing the mind of everyone involved.

I guess this depends on how we define "freak out." If "freak out" means become very anxious, over-thinking, or worried about the relationship, than that's, at least in part, because relationships themselves are good at provoking these emotions. No one wants to loose their partner. No one wants to watch love fade over time, and, yet, these are realistic potential outcomes every time we commit ourselves to someone else. In turn, worrying about these potential outcomes is natural. Attachment styles (anxious attachment), conflict with one's partner, and dissatisfaction in the relationship due to unmet needs can further fuel feelings of anxiety, sadness, or unrest. However, if we define "freak out" as becoming angry, lashing out, or otherwise "freaking out" on one's partner, then this can be caused due to conflict in the relationship, dissatisfaction with the relationship, fear (of losing one's partner, of commitment, of getting cheated on), or other factors. Sometimes, people seek out conflict or sabotage their own relationships due to personal struggles that challenge their ability to form healthy romantic connections.

This could come from a number of things. To begin, take a look at your childhood. Are your parents still married? Did your parents fight a lot when you were a child? Then look at past relationships. Can you spot anything from a past relationship that may be a trigger to you? It’s also important to consider trauma. This can be physical, mental, or another form. I think it can also stem from how you were treating through out your adolescence. Consider if you were bullied in school. This can really effect someone long term. Lastly, how do you feel about yourself? Do you look poorly at yourself? If you do, then it could affect how you think others see you.

It might actually be a good sign. It means you are conscious of that relationship and want to make it work. Freaking out may be as a result of imposter syndrome, probably you think you are not enough for your partner or they deserve someone better. It might just have to do with self belief. When it comes to personal relationships, there is no one way about it, different scenarios for different folks. You might also be freaking out as a result of past experience with people or events occurring around you. If you have bad past relationships, there is the likelihood that it will shape your behaviour in your new relationships. All in all, just do you best and be intentional

Because they feel too good to be true. In my past relationships, I would also imagine the "fairy tale" love. Very romantic and passionate, but they didn't work out that way. The relationship I'm in now, he treats me so kind and loving. Deeply I feel it's too good to be true and I doubt it. I love him dearly, but I overthink if he is truly feeling that way about me or it's all an act. I have to remind myself that I actually have something worth it and break away the thought that it's more than I imagine for it's what I truly wanted.

It's ok to freak out in a relationship. It's completely natural. We freak out because we need to trust that person, and in relationships, trust is a hard thing to conceive. We all believe that we can't trust our partner when they are alone because they may be doing something they shouldn't! We all think that we should stay tethered to them to make sure they are faithful. But that's not the point of a relationship. The point of a relationship is love, patience, and trust. When freaking out, the only one that actually counts is love. We have no patience with them and no trust.

it's probably because you havent grown up around any healthy, stable, and loving relationships :( it becomes hard to be in a healthy relationship yourself, no matter how angelic the other person is, if you haven't seen a good relationship while growing up to model your behavior after. but in a way, it's kind of sort of good? because it allows you to learn exactly what YOU want in a partner, instead of projecting someone else's desires onto them. the best thing to do is to keep up communication. be honest, don't be afraid to be vulnerable. good things don't come easy