Why do I freak out in relationships so easily?

Maybe this is because you have been in a relationship in the past that has hurt you. It may have even be a friendship, or a family member. Someone in the past may have let you down and you are scared to let someone that close again in case that happens again. It is normal. But, what we need to realise is that not everyone is the same. Not everyone we meet is going to hurt us.

Probably you have commitment phobia, and hence find a relationship too restrictive. I guess this is something you need to confirm by asking yourself, then you can start by committing yourself to small acts of commitment going from short term to long term. While doing so, try focusing on the positives of a relationship- support, trust, reliability, structure, companionship etc.

I think that past experiences could shape how we react to certain situations. A negative past experience in relationship could subconsciously alter the way you react in a relationship no matter if it is real or it is imagined as such.

Based on my experience, I can definitely say that freaking out easily is definitely a sign of insecurities. One step forward is to acknowledge them and try to understand why they exist there. From there on it should be a continuous path towards better self-knowledge/creation and improvement.

If you have been hurt in the past you probably fear to be hurt again, or you could just not be used to the love and commitment relationships take

In my experience it's because you finally have something good. It terrified me because in my hands was something I've been looking for and yet I could lose it in an instance, all in one mistake. That's why every single thing just garners an over-reaction. Late by an hour, no messages, it became so clear that I wasn't doing any good to myself as to the other person, but I couldn't help it. I didn't want to lose it. And that's why I think it happens. Because the most precious things are what scares us the most to lose.

I can understand what you are feeling. It is okay to freak out.But it is important to understand why and what the triggers are.

Whenever there is a situation that you feel like you are freaked out, you must stop and think for a while that is it because of my partner or is it me who is responsible for my own condition? Be honest with yourself because its the matter of your own life. Once you find the answer, then start thinking about what makes the responsible person to do so. Reasons could be many. It could be that you dont understand each other, neither u ever try to understand each other. There could be a conflict of thought also behind it. Yes u may love each other, but that doesnot assure that u understand each other also. So to love any one is an unconditional thing. Its impulsive. But to understand each other for the sake of growing that love, you have to work on it. Dont wait for ur partner to take the initiative. You are lucky enough because atleast you realized that there is something wrong. So take the initiative and be open to ur partner. Make him realize where u flawed first. Cuz if u start accusing or blaming him or her for the situation, it will neber work out. So first keep ur flaws at the front, discuss them. Ask ur partner that does he or she feel that this flaw exists in u? Ur partner would also start realizing that we are on right direction. Then after sorting out ur flaws, you may ask ur partner abt pointing out anythig which he or she feels wrong abt him or herself. Ur partner might not agree on it first. Dont force for any agreements. Keep working on it.. and make ur partner realize where he or she stand wrong. Finally he or she would realize and if he or she sees improvements from ur side, he or she would also start working on their own mistakes.. in this way you could be in much better relationship than before

Because of breakups. This is the main reason. Insecurity also plays a part in this. Past experiences that haunt us and affect relationships, future relationships.

Because you might be unsure of your feelings, or just unconfident. You need to love yourself before to love someone else.