Why do I freak out in relationships so easily?

You're probably just scared, those things are normal and everyone gets those gitters all the time. It's okay to feel that way, but eventually you want to get comfortable with the idea of being with someone past the friendship mode. You'll be okay though.

Maybe you hold an attachment early on to this person, hopes and expectations alike, when they break this ideal image you had of them, it can in turn lead you to panic because it isn't what you expected of them. Best to learn to lower your expectations of the other person and focus on the reality and what both can do for the relationship to grow and prosper.

You've been hurt before maybe, or you've seen or heard stories of others being hurt by relationships. You may be too afraid to be in a relationship because of the trust required, the sharing of so many personal details will spook some people. It just takes time to adjust to these things.

A reason why someone could freak out in relationships may be because of past experiences or expectations.

The reason why people freak out so easily I think is because they form attachments. Those attachments, can be very powerful, and of course if those attachments are broken they can be very painful. So they start becoming scared that those attachments will break, and try to do anything to stop that from happening. The emphasis on ANYTHING which a good portion of the times turn out to be the WRONG things. So not only does the fear of losing the relationship starts to happen, but the fear of doing the wrong things or saying the wrong things start to happen too...

I guess that's the innocence which is letting you act like that. But also it's an effort so as to keep yourself away from making any hasty move or uneasy move. Also I feel may be you are bothered about the relationship. But it's normal and it meaqns you are trying to focus on a serious and Love relationship instead of lust and attraction based or temporary one.

There are thousands of reasons, each relative to each person, no matter how small they may think it is. I've learnt from my past relationships that it was my own insecurity causing the constant anxiety and stress over the relationship, and I feared that a better, funnier, and more beautiful person would make it obvious my partner could have better. Attachment may play another role. Either you may be afraid to get attached, or you are already attached, and you are excessively worried about them leaving you, because your life feels dependent on them. Having been in that situation, I proceeded with caution in developing strong feelings and getting attached. This is internal to you. You can't change it until you start to accept and acknowledge or allow what you feel, to feel. I had to just let it be. After every break up, my heart will feel weaker, but in my mind, I know the entire process of a relationship is important, none of it should ever be forgotten, because when your heart breaks again, the experience you have had in the past and how the pain got better, doesn't weaken your heart because it strengthens it. When you are freaking out in a relationship, tell yourself you are not crazy because it is normal. However, to remind yourself that every freak out will eventually become the teaching tool in learning to become stable. It is somewhat calming when repeating that to yourself, and sometimes indirectly reduces the anxiety.

Because I have not completely healed from childhood trauma. Relationships can evoke the trauma in different situations and under present circumstances. This causes me to freak out as my response is visceral from unresolved and mosttimes unconscious or subsconscious issue

Commitment issues are very normal. And, it is okay to freak out. But you need to understand that it is very important to give it a shot to see where it goes. Take it slowly and steadily. Take small steps if required. You never know how it will be till the time you don't give it a shot.

Relationships can be tricky and can make a person go crazy, You could care about the person to much, and want them all to yourself all the time, or you could not care about them enough and maybe need to let them go. Sometimes people just arent cut out for relationships until they can further develope their own personality.