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Why do I feel like I'm cheating on him still, even though we broke up months ago?

Profile: 9hereforyou9
9hereforyou9 on Nov 23, 2018
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I think you just got so used to being with him and it’s hard to break out of that mindset. It is kind of simillar to a routine. You get used to it, but once you change routines it’s a little harder to remember what’s next. The thing is that you changed your routine for the better. You did this so you can go out and have some fun, and enjoy lige. It is completely natural for you to miss him or feel bad for going out. You may think that a month is a long time, but when you think about it, not that long has passed since your split. It takes time. Don’t worry. :)
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Profile: colourfulWillow64
colourfulWillow64 on Dec 2, 2018
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You may feel this way because you may have loved him. In a way you are still connected to him and still hope he comes back. Honestly, you are not cheating it only feels that way maybe because of the way it ended. You could try and get closure from him and see if there is any way you can get back together if you still have feelings for him. Ask people for support maybe try to move on if thats what you are seeking. But this really sounds like you still have feelings for him if you are feeling that way
Profile: dazedonlife
dazedonlife on Jan 10, 2019
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From my experience, Your mind and body would be use to the routine of waking up, With him being the first thing on your mind and the last thing as you sleep, Your lips would still have the shadow of his pressed against yours, The point i'm making is, Depending on how long you were together your mind has not realized you aren't together, Or maybe its lingering on the chance that there is hope, To rid of these feelings, Its best you take a vacation, Even if its just to your own mind, Find an hour in the day, Play music, Any genre, Mine personally would be the rock genre, And feel the pain, feel the love, Cry and scream, Shout it all out, And don't stop till his shadows are gone :)
Profile: Danielle1975
Danielle1975 on Jan 27, 2019
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it sounds like you may not be completely over him, it take time to heal from a break up and sometimes pushing yourself back out there doesn't help you need to grieve properly you have lost a person in your life and it god damn hurts. like anything it takes time just take one step at a time. You're not cheating on him but it does sound like you're not over him 100% try removing him from every social platform delete your pictures together and his number it all starts from removing him from your life completely good luck :)
Profile: itshaley
itshaley on Feb 21, 2019
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It means you’re not over him, but there’s nothing bad about it. He was your love, and just because things didn’t work out as expected, doesn’t it mean you can’t have feelings for him anymore. Perhaps take a break from dating for a while, focus on your friends. Talk to him maybe? Maybe he feels the same way? Breakups are hard and sometimes it’s very hard to get over him, but you have to try. I know I said talk to him about it, but you still can get over him. Be aware that you guys aren’t a thing anymore, so you can date whoever you want though!
Profile: PeacefulPanda
PeacefulPanda on Apr 12, 2019
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Emotional attachments can last a long time. Grief can also last a long time. If we form a tight bond, then moving forward can feel very unusual because we have formed very strong neural connections around that person in our brains. It will change with time, we don't forget them but our lives grow around our past so that our past forms the history and grounding for our present experiences. Try to practice self-compassion and self-care in the meantime. If you are happy with the progression of events and are not wishing for things to be different then remember that you are not cheating on him and that feeling will change with time :) Good luck!
Profile: Anonymous
Anonymous on Jul 6, 2019
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This is because it’s still fresh and you haven’t given yourself the closure that you need in order to move on without the guilt that you are cheating. Ask yourself if you are happy the way things ended and you got the answers to questions that were left unspoken. You have memories and happy moments that you will hold onto forever, you don’t have to forget them just because you’ve broken up. You can still hold onto them, however you may feel like you are cheating on him because of the memories you are holding onto. The next step is learning how to move on without the guilt of holding onto the memories
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Prakashyourfriend on Aug 9, 2019
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Maybe because your heart never really broke up with his.Maybe your heart cannot break up with him or just cannot fit someone else in. You can try focusing your thoughts and feelings by meditating. i t can really help you to find out what you really want in life. It is not always very easy to understand our feelings but not finding the solution is not the option. Maybe you can try removing his memories from your mind. I know its not as easily done as its said but you have to try. Thats the best thing i can tell you.
Profile: Cody17
Cody17 on Aug 16, 2019
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Because your heart is still there. Maybe you need to take time to learn and understand yourself before you move on. Life is too short to be unhappy and to not love yourself. Maybe you still have feelings for him and love him despite the fact you broke up months ago. You can also be feeling grief if you broke up on bad terms and therefore your mind may want to clear the air with him before you move on. Life can be difficult and therefore it is sometimes hard to understand our feelings. Don’t rush into things with someone new if your heart still isn’t recovered
Profile: Anonymous
Anonymous on Sep 5, 2019
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Breaking up with someone can and might take some time getting used to especially if we where with them for a longer period. The feeling your cheating on them might be because of the connection you had with them. I know when I broke up with my partner of 7 years it took me a very long time to be able to move on. I know for me during that time self reflection and self care was very important I did what I needed to do to make me happy. I do hope all the best.
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Anonymous on Sep 5, 2019
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If you feel like you have been cheating your partner even after you have broken up with him/her about months ago. That would be because you are still not moved on. Basically you are still in love with your partner. Your heart and mind still feels like you should be loyal to the one you love. It can be very frustrating at times. However, its good to realize that life is not all about being the same person forever. Sometimes we have to realize that somethings are better off without us and we need to leave it as it is if that is causing us any harm or mental torture.
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lilpuppy on Sep 27, 2019
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Maybe, because you still feel emotionally connected to him. In your mind, you are still together, though in reality, the situation is different. It takes time to move on from a break up, especially if the relationship was a significant one. It's okay to feel those confusing, mixed emotions in the aftermath. And there's no shame in feeling what you are feeling or thinking what you are thinking. Give yourself that time and space to heal and to recover. You might not be able to forget someone you once shared memories with, but over time, the attachment tends to lessen and slowly, day by day, things seem to be getting slightly easier. So, take that time.
Profile: Anonymous
Anonymous on Oct 3, 2019
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Maybe the guilt stayed with you even after you broke up. You may be feeling guilty that you breaking up was the cause of you having that relationship. Guilt is ok. It shows you know what you did was wrong and you feel the slightest bit of remorse. As time goes by you may learn to shed that guilt. You will eventually not feel guilty and you will learn to understand how to move on. To forgive and forget. It is never easy, but time will tell and show you soon. Good luck with your soon future relationships!
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Anonymous on Jan 5, 2020
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That's probably because you still love him honey and you just can't accept the fact that it's over between you two so it's only logical that you see him in other guys and his on your mind everywhere you go so please baby girl it's not to late maybe he feels the same way and you can still find out whether he still likes you. You are in love and you deserve all the happiness in the world so I say go for it love you only live once and you need to get your answers and when you do you have to leave happy.
Profile: bellarina74
bellarina74 on Jan 31, 2020
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You still have strong feelings for the person you were involved with and may not be ready for new relationships yet if you are feeling this way. Take your time moving forward. Grieve the loss of the previous relationship and become independent of your ex partner. Finding yourself and reflecting on your previous relationship will ensure you are trying not to repeat the same behaviors which contributed to the break up to begin with. Try spending time with friends and family who are independent of him and have your best interests at heart. You will be surprised how quickly you find yourself again when you surround yourself with people that care for you.
Profile: brightRiver5164
brightRiver5164 on Feb 8, 2020
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Maybe your heart still beats for him. it is better to move on. Do not overthink about it. clear your mind from all thought of him. Do what you like, involve yourself in activities that keeps you busy, do not avoid places where you visited with him. keep a good friend close to you, spend more time with your friends. go out places and enjoy weather,evening and your favorite food. Cut him completely from your life. Do not make a full stop on your life just because someone betrayed you. Don't stop and keep doing good work in your life.
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sunshineGrotto7327 on Mar 18, 2020
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Its happen when we are attached with someone strongly,so its natural.Due to strong affections sometime its feels like that but its doesn't mean u are cheating with him.Love is the strongest feeling that we have. Whenever we leave our beloved someone due to some reason or without any we need some time,someone we treats us in a better way.its help like healing a wound. They works like ointment. When we don't have such people in our lives we automatically miss that's part of our daily life routines that we have leaved.so that is the basic reason why we miss or feel like we are cheating.
Profile: Niktu58
Niktu58 on Apr 10, 2020
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There are several reason a person may feel as though they are cheating on someone that aren't intimate with any longer. It can be difficult to move on from someone we have loved and cherished and planned to have a future with. Perhaps you are a loyal person who doesn't give up on the people around you that you care about. The attachment to your ex- boyfriend was/is stronger than you expected. It might be that you aren't quite ready to move on from the relationship having left something unresolved; or your heart is telling you that to focus on yourself- taking a break from a relationship. And it may be a combination of all of these things depending on the day. Everyone processes a break up in there own time be patient with yourself.!
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DrMcKenzie on Apr 10, 2020
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Sometimes when we are so attached to someone it is hard to annul those feelings. We associate them with every aspect of day to day living, so when they are gone it seems wrong to do those things without them. We find it hard to disassociate them, especially if we did not get closure in the relationship. I find it helpful to try and associate those situations with smells, or emotions, maybe even a color that is popular during those activities. There is no defined way of erasing someones memory, and most of the time we don't want to. We just want to enjoy life without them.
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Anonymous on Apr 22, 2020
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It can be very challenging moving on from a relationship that meant a lot to you. Even after several months you can still feel as though you haven’t moved on from the relationship. The best thing to do is to put yourself and your mental health first, deliberately engaging in positive behaviours, and only move on to dating other people when ready. I can understand that it is frustrating feeling as though you should have moved on from something which is still affecting you, but remember that you will be okay, and that although everyone heals at their own pace, you will heal.
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