Why do I feel like I'm cheating on him still, even though we broke up months ago?
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Moderated by Smita Joshi, BA Psychology / MA / Advanced EFT Practitioner
Updated: Jul 6, 2023
Anonymous
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May 14, 2015
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because you still have feelings for him and you are not over him yet..... give yourself some time before jumping into a new relation
Anonymous
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Oct 27, 2016
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Sometimes, when we share our lives with someone for so long, its hard to make any decision or take any action that truly feels independent of our significant other, even if its after breaking up. This is perfectly natural and perhaps its a sign that you are not yet ready to share with someone new
MeganL91
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Apr 19, 2017
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This is normal. I have gone through this after breakups in the past. You may still feel emotionally involved with him for a while after breaking up, especially if your relationship was a long one. Take comfort in knowing that these feelings will fade and eventually disappear. I know this from experience. Good luck and hang in there!
Anonymous
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Jul 28, 2015
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Sometimes the guilt of something you've done lasts longer when you care about someone so deeply. I know from personal experience, that while I have had relationships and friendships fail, I still feel like I am betraying them when I am without them. Sometimes it just takes more time to get past an event or person, but it is totally possible!
GaurdianAngel1989
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Sep 13, 2016
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You are not over him yet therefore your heart has not let go. You probably think he might return to you. Get him out of your system.
Ishaa25
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Sep 23, 2016
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I feel the same way, it is natural. After break ups, it is not certain to lose all the feelings for him. You may still feel connected to him but helpless as well. And when you try to break through this " helpless" situation, You sense that you are cheating on him. But it is the right thing to do in order to move on.
Honeypuffs99
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Oct 2, 2016
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This might be because you still love him and are still in a way emotionally commited to him. As time passes, this problem will probably dissapear on it's own.
Rebelyell90
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Nov 3, 2016
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You still feel an attachment and connection to him, which effects your ability to move on, so you feel like you are cheating on him.
kal1027
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Nov 11, 2016
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Could be your still feel emotionally connected to him, therefore, investing in someone else might mimic a "cheating" feeling. These kinds of things don't happen over night. The heart needs to heal and that takes time. It is natural for the body to feel some guilt when it does something out of routine. You'll get there, keep your head up.
justIzzie
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Jan 3, 2017
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It often takes a while to fully move on from a serious relationship, and despite you may feeling better from the break up it may feel strange for you to move on. Often people just need to take a first step into moving on to realise that they are ultimately ready to do so. However, it is also common that others may have feelings left for their previous partner (despite being able to admit it or not). It is thoroughly important to not rush into thing sin this situation. I advise to sit down and spend some relaxing time on your own to reflect on your feelings and emotions. Only once you are certain should you take action, for the benefit of not just the mental health of the people around you but your own mental health also.
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