Why do I feel like I'm cheating on him still, even though we broke up months ago?
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Updated: Jul 6, 2023
Anonymous
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Sep 5, 2019
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If you feel like you have been cheating your partner even after you have broken up with him/her about months ago. That would be because you are still not moved on. Basically you are still in love with your partner. Your heart and mind still feels like you should be loyal to the one you love. It can be very frustrating at times. However, its good to realize that life is not all about being the same person forever. Sometimes we have to realize that somethings are better off without us and we need to leave it as it is if that is causing us any harm or mental torture.
lilpuppy
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Sep 27, 2019
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Maybe, because you still feel emotionally connected to him. In your mind, you are still together, though in reality, the situation is different.
It takes time to move on from a break up, especially if the relationship was a significant one. It's okay to feel those confusing, mixed emotions in the aftermath. And there's no shame in feeling what you are feeling or thinking what you are thinking. Give yourself that time and space to heal and to recover. You might not be able to forget someone you once shared memories with, but over time, the attachment tends to lessen and slowly, day by day, things seem to be getting slightly easier. So, take that time.
Anonymous
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Oct 3, 2019
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Maybe the guilt stayed with you even after you broke up. You may be feeling guilty that you breaking up was the cause of you having that relationship. Guilt is ok. It shows you know what you did was wrong and you feel the slightest bit of remorse. As time goes by you may learn to shed that guilt. You will eventually not feel guilty and you will learn to understand how to move on. To forgive and forget. It is never easy, but time will tell and show you soon. Good luck with your soon future relationships!
Anonymous
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Jan 5, 2020
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That's probably because you still love him honey and you just can't accept the fact that it's over between you two so it's only logical that you see him in other guys and his on your mind everywhere you go so please baby girl it's not to late maybe he feels the same way and you can still find out whether he still likes you. You are in love and you deserve all the happiness in the world so I say go for it love you only live once and you need to get your answers and when you do you have to leave happy.
bellarina74
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Jan 31, 2020
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You still have strong feelings for the person you were involved with and may not be ready for new relationships yet if you are feeling this way. Take your time moving forward. Grieve the loss of the previous relationship and become independent of your ex partner. Finding yourself and reflecting on your previous relationship will ensure you are trying not to repeat the same behaviors which contributed to the break up to begin with. Try spending time with friends and family who are independent of him and have your best interests at heart. You will be surprised how quickly you find yourself again when you surround yourself with people that care for you.
brightRiver5164
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Feb 8, 2020
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Maybe your heart still beats for him. it is better to move on. Do not overthink about it. clear your mind from all thought of him. Do what you like, involve yourself in activities that keeps you busy, do not avoid places where you visited with him. keep a good friend close to you, spend more time with your friends. go out places and enjoy weather,evening and your favorite food. Cut him completely from your life. Do not make a full stop on your life just because someone betrayed you. Don't stop and keep doing good work in your life.
sunshineGrotto7327
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Mar 18, 2020
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Its happen when we are attached with someone strongly,so its natural.Due to strong affections sometime its feels like that but its doesn't mean u are cheating with him.Love is the strongest feeling that we have. Whenever we leave our beloved someone due to some reason or without any we need some time,someone we treats us in a better way.its help like healing a wound. They works like ointment. When we don't have such people in our lives we automatically miss that's part of our daily life routines that we have leaved.so that is the basic reason why we miss or feel like we are cheating.
Niktu58
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Apr 10, 2020
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There are several reason a person may feel as though they are cheating on someone that aren't intimate with any longer. It can be difficult to move on from someone we have loved and cherished and planned to have a future with.
Perhaps you are a loyal person who doesn't give up on the people around you that you care about. The attachment to your ex- boyfriend was/is stronger than you expected.
It might be that you aren't quite ready to move on from the relationship having left something unresolved; or your heart is telling you that to focus on yourself- taking a break from a relationship. And it may be a combination of all of these things depending on the day. Everyone processes a break up in there own time be patient with yourself.!
DrMcKenzie
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Apr 10, 2020
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Sometimes when we are so attached to someone it is hard to annul those feelings. We associate them with every aspect of day to day living, so when they are gone it seems wrong to do those things without them. We find it hard to disassociate them, especially if we did not get closure in the relationship. I find it helpful to try and associate those situations with smells, or emotions, maybe even a color that is popular during those activities. There is no defined way of erasing someones memory, and most of the time we don't want to. We just want to enjoy life without them.
Anonymous
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Apr 22, 2020
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It can be very challenging moving on from a relationship that meant a lot to you. Even after several months you can still feel as though you haven’t moved on from the relationship. The best thing to do is to put yourself and your mental health first, deliberately engaging in positive behaviours, and only move on to dating other people when ready. I can understand that it is frustrating feeling as though you should have moved on from something which is still affecting you, but remember that you will be okay, and that although everyone heals at their own pace, you will heal.
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