Why do I feel like I'm cheating on him still, even though we broke up months ago?
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softLove29
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Apr 11, 2018
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you guys had something special and it will take some time to feel different but just keep reminding yourself that you are not doing anything wrong
WinterAristeia
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Apr 12, 2018
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Because you still care about him. Relationships may expire, but that doesn't mean your feelings do. You were with him for a reason, at one point.
cuddlyPink85
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Apr 15, 2018
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This is because you have had a connection with him. Feelings that you may be holding onto without even realising. It takes a little while to get over a break-up. We as humans, can't switch off our feelings for someone we have loved and cared for. If we could we wouldn't experience real life love/hurt. It sounds as though you are still loyal to this person.
lenimentus
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May 2, 2018
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Are you still thinking about him and in which way? Were there things left unsaid? Usually cheating, which technically you aren't doing, can be emotional or physical. If you still have feelings for him or there are things left unsaid or even if the relationship with him was something you cherished more than you do your current relationships it could feel like you are either missing out or that you are not true to your emotions. It all bottles down to how you perceive cheating.
Briwes911
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May 12, 2018
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well if you feel like your still cheating on him then maybe your moving to fast for you self and should wait until your more dnt have these feelings
violetvioleta
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May 12, 2018
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It is okay to feel this way, I had the same experience after my breakup. Your heart may still think about them and it may just mean you need to take time for yourself more.
Anonymous
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May 16, 2018
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Maybe you still have not let go completely of the relationship and moved on. That would bring you to feel like you are cheating on him when you're no longer together.
Suenami
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May 19, 2018
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You’re still hung up on your past relationship and you can try to get that back or move on. Don’t be in that standoff. Take control of your life. If you’re not in a relationship you’re not cheating
Anonymous
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May 20, 2018
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Maybe you are trapped in that past, like you think you aren't enough for him because of what you did? Whatever you need, you can count with me to help you more deep into this
Caroline1908
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Jun 24, 2018
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It can take a while to process loss, and that's exactly what's happening when you experience a breakup. Even though the person may not be dead, it's still a loss because you're not with the person anymore and it takes time to process that. When you go out with other people, you may not fully be emotionally detached from your ex, which is why feelings of guilt may come in. When this happens, it's best to take some time away from dating to let yourself heal from what you've been through. Talking about it, journaling, etc, are great ways of coping.
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