Why do I always think about him or her?

It depends on what the situation is. If it is a crush it's because you want to be with them. If it is a break-up it is because you are still getting over them. If it is a loss it is because they were very important to you. And sometimes the reason is nowhere to be found. It may sound crazy to think that there may not be a reason but that is life. The most important thing to remember is that no matter what happens we have people all around us for support when we need it, they are always there for us even if we don't see it.

You think about them because whether you realize it or not, they've played a significant role in your life and your emotions. They've filled a hole that you didn't know needed filling. When you think about them they bring you joy, happiness, or some type of positive feeling that nothing else can relate to or describe. I understand when you feel that way but remember that the past is the past and it is important to learn from it and leave it be. Use it to alter your present and guide your future but never allow it to dominate anything that you're currently dealing with.

Human ties are everything in this life. We draw meaning from our relationships with people and sometimes we give someone so much of ourselves to the point where they become a part of us. When they go away it feels like a piece of us has broken off. I think it’s natural to do this.. Sometimes it doesn’t work out the way wed hoped it to and that person is no longer a part of your life. Like a phantom limb, the brain still continually goes back to that person over and over because they became embedded in your reality. The good news is that our realities are always evolving and if there seems to be a piece of your heart missing now, it will be filled up and made whole again :)

If it's after a breakup of the reasons could be that there are still some unresolved feelings or you didn't get the closure that you were hoping for. Writing a letter that you never send could be helpful. Otherwise, it could be because you like the person or think they are interesting. Maybe because remembering them or thinking back to some of the memories you shared together makes you feel a positive feeling or you have some unfinished business. It could also be because you might be attached to someone and this can be either healthy or unhealthy.

Sometimes a person will look back and think of people left behind from their current lives for a variety of reasons. I do so as a means of self reflection; seeing where things went right or wrong in hopes I do not repeat the same mistakes made during the duration of the failed relationship. Self reflection is essential to our continued learning as people do make mistakes. Despite these mistakes we will always continue to grow from them. As long as one learns from a mistake it cannot be considered a failure. As individuals we are always learning throughout our lives. With each experience comes a new life lesson. My favorite part is looking forward to what each days lesson will be.

He or She was part of our life. It doesn't matter for how long. Whenever someone who was there is gone, memories remain. As time goes by those memories may mellow but good memories are like comfortable blankets - they can wrap us up in happiness. Remembering those who are no longer in our lives can keep them close to our hearts. Sometimes those memories are painful and that's okay. As hard as it is and as painful as it may be, it's normal to think about them. Talking about those no longer in our lives helps, too. Just remember - whatever you feel is okay. Someone else is feeling the same way.

All through our lives we make connections with people, big or small and when you have a emotional connection with a person, those memories are strong with us, i think about a lot of people i have meet over the years, i tend to remember the good times as they sometimes help me through hard times, i also know i will meet more people and build those connection with new people, as i get older i chose what type of connection and with who and the ones we always tend to think of the most are the ones we have had romantic emotional connections with or if they are suddenly taken from us and we have unanswered questions with said person, that is the hardest, but we have to let go of those unanswered questions, they weigh to much on yourself and until we let go, we well always think about said person, its hard to do, but to be healthy in body/mind/soul we have to.

May be the person you're thinking about is closely connected to you. May be there's something bugging you when you think about them. You can find out why you're thinking about him/her if you pay attention to your thoughts. There's a quote, "what we resist, persists". The more we try to resist a thought or say to ourselves that i won't think about 'something' the more we keep thinking about it. It is how our brain works. Always thinking about him/her may slow down if you don't resist the thoughts. If we find out the reason that why we are thinking about something then it may help to reduce the thought.

When you always think about one person its usually because you are invested or are wanting to be. When you always think about someone it's because you care or even love them. This also applies in breakups, deaths and circumstantial separation. This can lead you down the rabbit hole that is acceptance, which is a daunting task in its own right. We attach ourselves to people, it's part of being human and there are times where all we can do is think about.....the one. We fixate on things, be it a hobby, a project, that one song you play over and over again. People find what they like and most of the time....its another person.

It is not easy to take your mind off something that hurts you. Try distracting your mind by keeping yourself and your mind busy. Try doing something you like, maybe a hobby such as writing or taking a bike ride or even cleaning. I have found that diverting your mind and attention elsewhere works wonders! Think about something positive and hold on to that positive thought. What makes you happy? What brings you joy? It’s hard to stop thinking about someone who has hurt you in the past and I believe in time does heal all wounds. It won’t be easy but we are here to support you through this!