Why do I always say things I don't mean?

Because you are mad and you say stuff that makes the other person feel bad but you dont mean it.....

In my experience, people say things they don't mean because they are either scared of what may happen if they say what they truly think, or they don't know what they mean. People are always scared of what others will think of them and that's one of the driving forces behind saying things people don't really mean.

For example, when you're angry, you don't think before you talk. It just happens because are emotions are taking over and we sometimes don't think before we act.

What are you afraid will happen if you did say what you mean? What is your personal experience when you have said what you really meant? Not saying what we mean, or in other words, speaking our truth can be a means of hiding ourselves. It's like the anxiety some people feel when handing in assignments or projects they feel invested in - the feedback can hurt and be taken personally because we feel the criticism of our work is a criticism of ourselves. However, this is just one way of interpreting this question. Does "... things i don't mean" refer to lying or trying to fit in? or does "things i don't mean" refer to something like saying harsh things when you are upset? A) You aren't being genuine to others. B) you aren't being genuine to yourself. In short, reflect on what message you put out there beforehand and just practicing really saying what you mean.

sometimes we don't think about the things we say before saying them we just say it in such situations one should remain calm and think before saying things

maybe you are just confused about your feelings or maybe you just express your self in the right way i'm sure people who loves you will forgive you if you made it clear you didn't mean what you said

Anger and upset can cause people to say or do may things that they should not or would not say normally. If u feel that what you are saying is hurting someone learn to tone down and find out where it is coming from.

You might be saying them because you're hurt or have regret. Could also be, because you have a guard up and don't want people to know the real you?

I think sometimes the world puts this pressure on us to act a certain way or to say certain things even if we don't mean them. I think that is why I say certain things.

There could be many things that stops you from saying what you really mean. Was it due to the fear of embarrassment, not knowing if you shared certain things and how the person will react? Not sure if the person would accept your vulnerability. Then again, what will happen if you are more genuine to yourself. Give it a try, if it brings you closer to what you want. Maybe, saying what you meant is what both you and him/her really need. It takes time. Persevere.

Perhaps because your intentions don't match with your words. Perhaps you're hurt in the moment and want to retaliate.

Sometime we say things in the moment, without thinking through the way it may affect someone else! Our feelings take control and we say the first thing we think of!

Because you're human! Part of life is making mistakes, saying things we don't mean, hurting people we care about. What defines you as a person is how you learn and grow from these experiences and how you fix your mistake. A heartfelt apology can go a long way but not if it's the same apology for the same mistake over and again.

Fear in my experience is a powerful driver to make me say things that I don't mean. If the fear is so strong then my subconscious I think can do anything to try and get out of the situation. In a way trying too hard to be perfect makes that other part of me lash out in self defence, when with more self awareness, the simple answer could have simply been to walk out of a conversation or say I wasn't comfortable.

Sometimes if you are worked up about a problem and you are just trying to make a point you can say things you don't necessarily mean or think are true.

This just means you you impulsively speak. It's ok. Everyone does it, some more than others. I find that it helps to rehearse in your head first and try to think of the outcome and how the person is going to react. Even bite your tongue if it helps, but not hard of course. This happens more often when someone is mad, upset, frustrated, or even just blatantly tired. Don't put yourself down for it. My friends know not to continue arguing with me when I'm mad because I always say things that I don't mean when I'm upset. It helps instead of trying to avoid saying things that I don't mean all by myself. Just try your best to think before you speak. I know, it's hard, but you can do it.

It's important to think about our words and actions before we do or say them. Of you are very passionate about certain things, this can happen to anyone. Try to really listen and meditate on a response before saying it.

From my own personal experience, I feel that we mostly end up saying what we don't mean when we are angry and want to hurt the person at the receiving end. But such thoughtless utterances give only momentary satisfaction because the moment we are calm again, we end up regretting every word we said when in anger.

You may not be thinking before you speak, this is ok as a lot of people make this mistake. Try to think things through more :)

Sometimes it's hard for you to show your true emotions. It's easier to lock it all inside. Try to let it go sometimes.