Why do I always keep strong emotional attachments to the person that hurt me the most?

You feel drawn to them because they make you feel good. What needs to be realized is that they good feeling they give you may not always be a truthful one.

You most likely keep emotional attachments to a person who hurts you most because you feel the need to give that person a second chance. That is all well and good and everyone deserves a second chance. However, that same feeling often does not share the same feeling.

In my experience, the people who could hurt me the most are the people who I care about the most, and who I don't want to see get hurt. So it is the people with who I have strong emotional attachment that have the capability and opportunity to hurt me the most. Strong emotional attachment with a person makes it very difficult to move away when the person is hurting me. Also, there are times when strong emotional attachments with certain people cause me to have greater expectations from those people, and whenever those expectations are violated I end up getting hurt.

it hurts the most when it comes from the most loved person, that is why it is hard to forget the person that hutted you the most because you loved them.

So that If they hurt me I wouldn't be affected. Think of it as a firewall it's something that protects you

Because you most likely still trust them or have a deep connection to them still no matter how much they helped you

Often people keep emotional attachments to people who hurt them because for someome to hurt you. That person has to be trusted first. My friend once started dating the girl I had liked for years and he knew it. i was barely able to talk to him for months until i was able to come to grips with it and recognize how happy she made him.

When we don't love, respect and care for ourselves and seek fulfillment in other person, then the complex problem of getting emotionally attached ,even to the person that hurt the most, begin. The moment we realise self love and self respect, we take responsibility for ourselves, taking courageous and wise decision of getting apart from negative people without any delay.