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Why do I always feel like it's all my fault after breakups?

Profile: DipityEnigma
DipityEnigma on Nov 30, 2015
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We tend to blame ourselves even if we truly know it's not our fault but even if there is a small amount of guilt for something you did that might have added to the inevitability of a break-up, you're more inclined to believe you really are the reason why it happened.
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Profile: TheAlternateVent
TheAlternateVent on May 17, 2016
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The fact that you had to ask this question only strengthens your devotion to the relationship. Thus overruling your assumption of not giving it your all. Relationship is a 2 way street, you did give more than what you received, it is their loss of giving away such a beautiful journey. You can relieve yourself of that doubt and try to cultivate the habit of self-actualization. If it was not meant to be then it is not your fault.
Profile: CendraListener
CendraListener on Apr 18, 2017
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Maybe you were with a person who made you feel this way. Also, donc overthink it, a breakup is always something hard to deal with. So let's relax and move on step by step with accepting the fact that both of you were not good in this relationship actually. It's not your fault, your personalities were not complementary
Profile: TheBFG
TheBFG on Jun 7, 2015
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Perhaps you become too emotionally attached or maybe you just care more than the other person? You have to remember you aren't the only person in that relationship so you can't take 100% of the blame. The majority of people have hundreds of breakups before meeting the right person so don't beat yourself up about it, go easy on yourself.
Profile: greatfulGrace21
greatfulGrace21 on Aug 16, 2016
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It's not your fault. It takes two to make a relationship, it's only your fault if you didn't put forth that effort. And etc. but it can be either or. But if you know it wasn't you. And you did nothing wrong. No matter how many times you rethink over and over "what did I do wrong" , and there's nothing you did do wrong, it's not your fault.
Profile: Anonymous
Anonymous on Aug 24, 2015
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because you care for the person and seeing them hurt makes you feel self guilt. once you realize that it wasn't anyone's fault and that it was not meant to be then you have nothing to feel like its your fault.
Profile: Anonymous
Anonymous on Nov 17, 2015
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It's normal to feel that way after a relationship has ended. It's not always entirely one person's fault in the relationship. Everyone makes mistakes and sometimes you aren't compatible with the other person.
Profile: Greatlistener87
Greatlistener87 on Mar 22, 2016
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Always remember it takes two hands to clap in a relationship. If there was a breakup it takes two hands to do so too.
Profile: viralsmiles127
viralsmiles127 on Jun 17, 2015
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The first sign of regret is blaming yourself, its a sign that you know you didn't do your best at something but break-up is an issue where its either you or someone/something else
Profile: Anonymous
Anonymous on Nov 29, 2016
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If you do not understand why the break up happens, doubt can take over and can cause anxiety, leading your mind to think everything is your fault.
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