Why do I always blame myself for the breakup?

This natural, most people have this reaction but in all honesty, it's no ones fault, yes even if they cheat on you. And here's why. 1.Sometimes you can love someone but not be in love with them anymore, and then the relationship becomes somewhat tiresome, this is no ones fault, you cannot force a feeling. 2.if your partner cheats on you, it's not because you are doing something wrong, sometimes people cheat not because they don't want you anymore, but because it happens unintentionally, you can fall in love with two people at the same time, believe me. 3.Sometimes you'll be the one finding someone else, and whether or not you were looking, it makes you question everything and sometimes you'll feel guilty, but that's human, you can't help when you fall in love no matter who it is. Breakups are no ones fault, breakups happen when two people found each other at the wrong time and somehow realize they're no longer compatible, even if that doesn't make it hurt any less. I do believe there's someone for everyone, and I also believe that when relationships don't work, it just means you're one step closer to finding your other half.

Lots of people tend to blame themselves for things they didn't do. So... Was it your fault? Was it your partner's? Was it generally lack of communication (both) or trust?

People sometimes feel like it’s their fault for the breakup. You shouldn’t blame yourself you didn’t do nothing.

It's easier to put blame on ourselves because we only see our flaws. At the same time it's easy to place blame on yourself (or someone else) simply because demonizing one person is easier than both people taking responsibility and blame.

I think it’s only natural to depending on the situation, but it’s important that it wasn’t all your fault. It works both ways. And the best thing to do is to try and move on instead of looking back and feeling horrible about yourself

It can be hard to see that you are not to blame completely. It might be because you have learnt that things come from your decisions. Just remember that a relationship has 2 people in it and the results are because of both of you and not just yourself.

Sometimes a breakup will end with one or both sides feeling confused or frustrated. You might be struggling to find the reason for your breakup, and eventually end up evaluating your own performance while the relationship lasted. You may start to wonder if you did poorly, and those negative thoughts will culminate into self-blame.

In a relationship problems are usually both sides, sometimes personalities might not match. Best thing to do is to find what was the main cause of the breakup, which could be dealt with by having a very mature conversation with the person

It's normal to feel this way when we care for the person we were with. Not every relationship is meant to be. As much as this hurts for some, it is the truth but the best and only thing you can do is move on by focusing on yourself and trying to improve in areas you think you need improvement in. In the end, you might have to go through a few toads before you meet your prince/princess! And your ex MIGHT be the one. Only time can tell. But you should never focus on your ex. You still have to move on even if you two are going to be together in the end.

Break ups are never easy. They often leave us questioning where things went wrong... Or what we did wrong. When we are feeling vulnerable, its easy to think that we are to blame. Its important to try learn what we could have done differently, in order to improve for future relationships... But its also important that this is a journey of self-exploration, not of self-blame. You may have made some mistakes, or maybe you didn't, but the important thing is to turn the break up into a learning experience... And try to do better in the future. Try not make this a question of who is to blame, but rather recognise this now as an opportunity for growth.