Why do I always blame myself for the breakup?

It is usually easy to blame your own self for anything bad that has happened rather than blaming others. When a relationship ends a chapter of your life or rather a part of your life ends and you need to blame someone. As I stated above you blame yourself. A certain guilt always accompanies a breakup which makes a breakup harder. Guilt does not let us see the reality. Overcoming this guilt us what is called getting over a breakup. And unless you truly have done something that led to that breakup like abusing the partner, cheating, lying etc. You are not to blame. What you feel is normal and can actually be considered healthy but don't take it too far. You feel guilt and you Blane yourself fine but don't let it weigh you down.

It could possibly be a pattern you have developed over the years and it is certainly not always your fault. Breakup takes two people, the same way a relationship does. If you feel like you are the one to blame try taking a step back and think of situations that led to the breakup and analyse them with someone who is going to be impartial and objective and can help you make things clearer.

Because they showed you that it was your fault they made you feel guilty of the situation. been there than that a couple of times in the past.. and from there i learned that as long as you know that you've done everything that you can to save the relationship you should not blame your self. Self Confidence, if you're confident enough that someone in future will appreciate you? you have nothing to worry about.

Breakups are hard and sometimes we have a tendency to blame ourselves, even when the fault is not always ours. The pain associated with a breakup leads a lot of blame to be thrown around on the part of both parties involved. The key to not blaming yourself is understanding what the circumstances were that led to the breakup, rather than who is at fault.

Maybe it was your fault. Did you cheat on you ex or lie? If you didn't take action to actively break the relationship, chances are that you just weren't compatible with your ex. Relationships are not one size fits all. You can't just have a perfect relationship with anyone. Relationships are trial and error until you find the right person who shares you goals and compatibility.

Everyone has a tendency to blame themselves after a break up, because as humans we always think we're flawed. Sit down, think about everything that happened to cause the break up, and you'll find that there were issues on both sides!

everyone is their worst critic. even if it's not your fault, you'll always think it is. that's okay. just know that what happened was probably for the best

It is general conception that people tend to find their own mistakes and blame themselves even if they are not guilty.

Blaming yourself is very common. You reflect upon circumstances that occurred and you think to yourself, what if I had done this or that differently. Just be level minded with yourself that the decision you made at that present time, was the correct one.

A lot of people do that. I think we feel like the other person decided to break up because we weren't enough. We aren't objective, we don't think "We didn't get along anymore." but "Why did they leave me? What did I do wrong?". People automatically assume that they did something, but it's not true. You must accept it to be able to feel better about yourself.