Why do I always blame myself for the breakup?

Sometimes being in-love with someone turns us to be happy and inspired everyday. Being in-love is not always end up like a fairy tale that requires a happy ending story, because the saddiest part in life is saying goodbye to someone you wish to spend your lifetime with. Yes, you have to cry and it feels like you have to give up your everything but remember time heals. Blaming yourself for break up with someone you love is a part of process to move on especially when you are being so deeply in-love with that person, there's nothing wrong when you cry time to time, tears are words the heart can't express. Then, One day that tears turns smile that you deserve. So stop blaming your self for breaking up with someone, because if he values you, he wouldn't put himself in a position to lose you.

You blame yourself because you can't seem to find anything else that may have caused your breakup. However, there is absolutely no way that your breakup is in any way your fault unless you know for a fact that you did something wrong (i.e., cheating). Don't be so hard on yourself. Nobody's perfect. Not you, not me, not your ex, not anybody. Don't blame yourself, but you also don't blame them. There's hardly any relationships out there that work out for everyone involved, and there's always someone else out there for you. That, of course, doesn't mean you have to move on right away, but it's still something to think about and consider for the future.

You take responsibility for disrupting a relationship that was important to you. You take part of the blame, but you shouldn't just blame yourself. A relationship needs efforts from all the parties involved: don't blame yourself from breaking up with someone if that relationship made you unhappy.

I think sometimes it's easier to blame ourselves than to accept the reality of the situation. At least I do. If it's my fault that something happened then it's within my control -- as opposed to the relationship just falling apart, or the personalities just not meshing. Unfortunately, I don't think any social issue is so black and white. Not 100% anyone's fault.

Because you are a good soul. You find it easier to blame yourself than others. And so you tend to be hard on yourself. I wouldn't ask you to go around blaming the other person. But I would say, it was no one's fault. You did the best you could and rest is out of your hands. Tell this to yourself.

It's natural for people to often always think that something they did caused a breakup. But if you were being yourself and truthful in the relationship, it might help to remember that it takes both people being equally involved in the relationship. Breakups just mean you weren't right for each other...not that you are at fault.

Maybe you generally feel responsible for many things. Perhaps this is because you quickly see fault in yourself and are very forgiving of others. However, you are worth a lot! It is not fair to blame yourself for a breakup. There are two people in it. Treat yourself as you would your best friend! Would you think it is fair if this friend takes all the blame for a breakup? Nobody is perfect, we are all here to learn.

Breakup is something which very hard for all of us to face. It's the bitter truth of reality we don't want to know. We think that way because we think we loved the wrong person and it's all our fault if they let us go just because they didn't realise our worth. Because we were not enough but we let that someone get close to us that someone touch us feel us and know us which disgusts us after it's all over

You don't want to go down that road friend. We always tend to blame ourselves in those situations. We like to believe if we did things differently we could have salvaged things. Somethings we have to accept it has it is and let go.

High expectations of our own judgements could be a cause for self-blame. A socially acceptable standard is held differently in each cultural setting. In many cases expectations are held even by our significant other that realistically cannot be achieved. It's best to regulate our past events in this case in the brake up to conjure "I did the best i could when...." or I learned some important lessons when I..." Acknowledging past retreats gives time to self discovery of our needs and wants to further process our self awareness.