Why do I always blame myself for the breakup?

I am also the same kind of person. I always take guilt for any misunderstanding or mishap happen in my relation. And I always blame myself for breakup. It is just because I love my partner so much that I cannot believe that they can ever do any mistake. It is my belief about them that makes my relation special. It is that very belief helps me sleep happily with trust about my partner. That belief is good but also have such cons like self blaming. Understanding that not blaming others but self blaming needs a lot of compassion and empathy. Do not feel bad about yourself. Moving away from that self blaming and knowing you are special is important.

Maybe because the value you have for yourself is not enough,which means that you think everything that is going wrong its because of you

People blame themselves for everything actually, but the hard truth is, nothing is really your fault. Aren't you always doing your best? If someone told you a story that was very similar to yours, wouldn't you have compassion for them and comfort them? Some relationships just have a shelf life, we learn what we need from them and then we wave a fond farewell and excitedly wait for the next person. As hard as it might be to hear, you've done nothing wrong. You're innocent -- so don't be guilty! :-)

If you have a breakup, it is natural to try to figure out what went wrong. Because you are not talking to the other person, it is easy to overthink your actions and blame it on something that you did.

Hey there, I’m so sorry you feel that way. I felt this way too. It was my greatest moment but it was still there. You may think it’s your fault but it’s not. You haven’t done anything wrong. You may blame yourself because you’re scared of what you did wrong but nothing Went wrong. It’s common for people to blame themselves for the break up. It’s not anyone’s fault. Things happen. Don’t give yourself a hard time for something you didn’t do. Try talking it out with the other person to see what happened. It won’t be as bad as you think.

Its easier to blame ourselves then accept the fact that others have issues also and that we can not control them so we turn it on us, we are an easy target to aim at sense we are the ones in our heads.. We can also have someone tell us its our fault and believe them even if It isn't the case at all. We feel weak and we talk negative to ourselves. We think we are not worthy and not loved and nothing to anyone so we take the blame which is not always true of course we can have some blame but not always.

Blaming yourself often seems like the easiest thing to do after a break up. It's easy to let yourself only focus on the negative. Taking sometime to let yourself see why you left in the first place is always a good place to start. When you realize that you now have that weight off your shoulders you can really begin to move on, grow, and recover from your previous relationship. I was in a relationship for 5 years and refused to see what everyone else was telling me. I was in a bad place during the relationship and let myself fall into a worse place after the break up by blaming myself. When I finally saw that I was bettering myself for leaving a great weight was lifted off my shoulders and it allowed me to like myself again. Its okay to admit that somethings were your fault, but its not okay to blame everything on yourself.

I think it is natural to blame one's self for such things. You were intimately involved in a relationship and it goes bad, we always ask ourselves "what could I have done differently" and if you can think of just one thing, you'll automatically blame yourself. Let's not throw around blame. Instead take that experience from the past relationship, take that "what I would have done differently" and apply it towards your future and future relationships. Another common misconception is to say "all my relationships end badly, I'm the common thread here so it must be me" I remember thinking this way for the longest time until it finally clicked in my head that just because a relationship ended didn't mean it's anyones fault.

Don't blame yourself. It’s a two way thing. Sometimes in a relationship we give our 100% but still it does not works because that person is not the one for us. So just don't make yourself feel bad over anything. Try to move on. Distract yourself.Spend more time with your friends and family. Read books or watch movies. Eat your favorite snacks. Take a good long nap.Do not overthink. Everything is going to be fine.just have some patience.Blaming yourself only make you sad and disappoint so just try to forget about it. Take your broken relationship as a lesson. Don't let your daily life effect by your breakup. Just look at the mirror smile to yourself. Love yourself .Listen to your favorite music.

it is something that everyone does eventually after a breakup. you may be thinking of ways you could have done something different or ways that you could have fixed it. in the end it is no ones fault. if you cheated that may be a different story but overall you should not blame yourself. it is a big burden to carry and unnecessary as well by the way. you are a strong person and sooner or later you will realize it was not your fault and you will be happy again. remember your self worth and live life to the fullest.