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Why do I always blame myself for the breakup?

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Anonymous on Feb 1, 2016
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Breakups often cause guilt. Unless given a reason to believe other wise, you could believe you were the reason.
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ListenMoreTalkLess on Sep 15, 2016
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It is easy to self-blame after our breakups and think of what we did wrong or where it all went wrong. However, usually there is blame on both sides, but focusing on the blame does not help us to move on and heal.
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Anonymous on Nov 5, 2016
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Ending a relationship is hard for everyone involved, even when you are the person ending it. The odds are likely that anyone who is going down a self imposed, endless spiral of post breakup anxiety is pondering over one of these things. The amount of time it's taking to get over it. How he or she should've known better. The guilt of what he or she did to make the relationship end. But, there is no specific time, love makes us blind and we must let go of guilt.
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Anonymous on Nov 26, 2016
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Because we are all insecure. We think we did something to make the person stop liking us and it wrong. We breakup because we aren't in love with that person anymore and don't want to drag the person along.
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avanef on Jan 25, 2017
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That's very common in relationships for both sides. I myself kept thinking I was the problem or that I started things when I was with my significant other. Just know, it probably wasn't your fault at all and you will be better from that breakup.
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AsianDumpring on Mar 3, 2017
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It's natural to blame yourself, especially if you didn't see it coming or you were the root cause of it. What you need to understand is that there's a huge difference between blaming yourself and taking responsibility for what happened. Learn from your mistakes and move on. Don't let past mistakes affect future opportunities
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alfiedoggo on Mar 3, 2017
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It is very common to consider yourself the one to blame. It's hard to get over breakups, and blaming yourself is certainly one of the side effects of letting each other go. Just know that you did nothing wrong and that there's better people in the world for you.
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Anonymous on May 21, 2017
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You blame yourself because you feel pressured to make the other person happy which means when it no longer works you go over and over the situation beating yourself up and looking for faults in you personality. If the other person is unkind it reflects their personality not yours.
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TechnoMom on Jun 8, 2017
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Goodness, how powerful are you? :-) Seriously, it takes at least two people to be in a relationship, and it takes two to break up, as well. If both of you didn't want the relationship to work, it couldn't do so. And even if both of you DID want the relationship to work, sometimes one person has a different idea about what the relationship is or should/could be than their partner does, or has different values. Even if those values aligned at the beginning of the relationship, people change. So please, don't take all that weight on yourself. You don't deserve it.
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FeelFreeToShare on Jun 25, 2017
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Things are not as simple as they seem. Breakup is something that involves both the parties and not only one of them. Blaming oneself is not right if one feels that he/she broke up for valid reasons. You must not carry the guilt and look ahead in life for better things.
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