Why do I always blame myself for the breakup?

Because deep down you still love your partner and this makes it easier for your partner as you shoulder the responsibilities. You are a good person. You do not want your partner to feel so much pain therefore you had to make the choice to take everything in yourself. This is irregardless of what was the cause of the breakup or malfunction of the relationship. Anyone else could have just blamed their partner for the "Breakup" or "drift" but how many can truly make the ultimate sacrifice like you did? I believe deep down you know the answer behind your question.

Sometimes, especially when we ourselves have personal insecurities, it’s easy to blame one person or the other for a breakup. Most times, it’s a mutual conglomerate of error from both sides. No one is perfect, yet this tends to be skewed aggressively towards one or the other party. They or myself. Learn to work things out civilly, it’s the key to all relationships in life. Work on the self before trying to fix and work on outside relationships. How can we expect our relationships to survive when we can’t nurture ourselves first? This is the key to a healthy relationship, a healthy self.

You blame yourself for the break-up because you are insecure of your own abilities. You think that the other person is perfect, and have done nothing wrong. That is not true. In a relationship, it always takes 2. Even if you have made the decision to break up, you have every right to follow your gut and happiness, even if it means temporary sadness for the other person. Ultimately, you have to follow what is best for you, and both of you, but there is absolutely nothing wrong from running away from a toxic relationship! Self love is everything, so get started and never justify your actions again.

I think it's very natural to push the blame on yourself when it comes to a break up - the reality is, that both parties have usually contributed something to the reason why the break up came to pass. It's very easy to make someone a saint in your mind when you are missing the idea of them, but the reality is that there are usually valid reasons why things didn't work out. Breaking up with someone you love is never easy - and sometimes people can be compulsive and rather harsh on themselves for those spontaneous decisions.

It is normal to blame yourself after a breakup. Even if you were the one that got dumped. Breakups could leave you questioning what went wrong, and often times when that happens, people rule themselves as the main reason the breakup happened. Keep in mind that this is just a post breakup stage. It will pass eventually. Blaming yourself is something you should always try to avoid, try doing something that gets your mind off of them. Whether it be exercise, your favourite hobby, listening to music, whatever it is just do it. Keep in mind that most times breakups don't happen because one person did all the wrong un the relationship, but because you 2 as individuals weren't meant to be together.

I'm sorry your feeling so bothered by this. Maybe change your perspective. Start small and work your way to a conclusion. What is it about the breakup that makes you feel as if it's your fault? It's a natural response to feel bad after a breakup. Majority of people feel either sad or as if they're the one to blame. Breakups are a natural part of life and they can teach us more about our own strengths and weaknesses if viewed from the right angle. If you see things from a different perspective, breakups can be great learning opportunities.

Things happen, people get into fights, and breakups happen: It's all a part of this thing we call life and the best thing we can do is embrace it. Blaming yourself for a breakup probably comes down to you knowing that your actions could have been part of what lead to the breakup in the first place. Another reason why you might blame yourself for a breakup is because you can't stop looking back on what once was. You can't stop thinking about what you did or did not do while you were in the relationship. You need to realize that nobody is at fault here, including you. Breakups are a part of life and we all go through them at least once in our lives. :)

The reason for blaming ourselves often comes from insecurities and not being aware of our positive traits and only focusing on the negatives. We only look into ourselves but not into the relationship itself. There are always two individuals involved, and usually it is more complicated than, one of them is to blame. Seeing what we did wrong is important, because that’s the only way we can better ourselves in the future, so we won’t make the same mistakes over and over again. But blaming ourselves (or others) does no good, because it blinds us and we see no way around it. We need to accept, that there are things that we could have done better. But we should not limit ourselves to these mistakes, these are not the things that define us, these are the things that show us where can we improve.

I feel like this is very common with many people. In my experience, I blamed myself for a breakup because at that time I was still very vulnerable from the breakup, I was emotionally impacted by everything. I did a lot of self reflection which made me see my own flaws and mistakes that i had been making in that relationship. While this can be helpful, we also have to see the other person’s flaws and mistakes, and realize that it isn’t all our fault. Also, right after a breakup, we can still idolize the other person which might make it difficult to see their mistakes, thus we blame ourselves.

Many people tend to take the blame for a breakup because it’s easier than to assess the complete situation. Relationships are very complex social structures and both partners are responsible for the way the relationship works out. Also taking the blame, a person scared of confrontation can defuse a situation and avoid an even bigger conflict. And perhaps when taking the blame upon oneself alone, the other person is more likely to forgive and they might give the relationship another chance. Seen from this perspective it’s perfectly understandable why one would take the blame, however it is unfair towards oneself and your partner/ex won’t be able to improve themselves without being confronted with their own mistakes.