Why do I always blame myself for the breakup?

When you go through a breakup, it's common to think about the "what ifs". You can think about what you did in the relationship, and see if you can change anything. But often, when you do breakup, it's not your fault and you shouldn't think like that. But everyone thinks that it's them that there is something wrong, that it's why they broke up. But it's mostly because of timing or because feelings change.

After a break up it's natural to think about all the things that you did wrong or that you could have done better. I think this is because when you love someone is hard to pick out their flaws and your wrong doings. People tend to look for the best in who they love and are the hardest on themselves. This is a dangerous combination during a break up. Its important to take a step back and look at the relationship as a whole from both sides.

People blame themselves because in your heart you believed it could of worked. So you Blame yourself and act like it was your fault and that you could of done something more to keep it going. But the truth is that if it was going to work nothing will tear y'all apart.

Cause you always think that other person loved you and you could not reciprocate the love towards them. But actually in most cases, if people are in love, true love, any kind of mistakes can be erased like washing dust with water.

You have lack of confidence and have inferiority complex. You over think and not able to analyze the situation and reason of breakup

I blamed myself for forever. then i realized that you can't control someone else's actions. you can only be the best form of you,

It's easy to fall into a self destructive pattern, so don't beat yourself up too hard for it. "What ifs" thoughts like "what if I did this, said this.." are often interwoven in all areas of our lives. Just be aware of such thoughts and evaluate if you are worthy of such a blame. Just know that a relationship involves two people, and similarly a break up. Thus, when an ending of a relationship occurs, understand that two people are accountable, not just one.

Because you are too kind, you always take the blame on yourself because you don't see the bad things in other people and even if you do you try to come up with a thing that you have done and end up blaming your self and forgiving them.You do this so that you wont hate the other person. Because you are too sweet that you don't see the faults in other.

maybe simply because we dont want to blame our partner that we love so much... we don't want to accept that they might be wrong at some point

In the heat of the moment, when our emotions run rampant, we are not thinking clearly. Our minds are racing and in order to save a relationship we automatically admit to problems even if it's not our fault. When you love the person, doing anything to salvage something shows you care. Blaming yourself only means that you were vested, and because of the pain of the breakup, resorting to beating yourself up is a normal thing but over time as the emotions fade and you're in a clearer state of mind, the TRUE reasons of why you broke up become clear, whether it was your fault or not. We're human, we make mistakes.