Why did I waste so long in an abusive relationship? Why was I not brave enough to walk away?

Sometimes we all just want to be in a relationship and if you just left maybe you thought you wouldnt ever be in a relationship again...just like stephen chbosky said we accept the love we think we deserve.

They made you feel intimidated it's hard to Crack out of your she'll when you're always being put down wich leads to isolation, feeling low, depression and exceptance

There can be many reasons. Sometimes it could be that you feel that you deserve it. Sometimes you have the fear to leave thinking that it will only get worst and etc. Whatever the reason nobody deserves a abusive relationship. Walk out of it as soon as you know. You deserve better.

It's not your fault , we tend to be in abusive relationships out of fear of leaving what we know for something unknown. You shouldn't blame yourself.

For me, I believe bad situations including abusive push you to erase your feeling and emotion for yourself. Sooner or later the abuse is the only thing that causes you to feel. So you crave it so it wasn't that you were Brave. In fact I would argue your bravery was found in dealing with it for so long. We want to feel, and if pain is all we can feel we will crave it.

It's scary to walk away in any relationship, regardless of the circumstances. You have a partner that at one point or another, you had complete trust in, and cared about immensely. It's hard to walk away from that, despite everything. It's just so important to remember that you deserve the very best, and to put yourself and your happiness first.

It can be tough to notice the warning signs when you are in an abusive relationship. People in abusive relationships tend to normalize abusive or negative behavior and words from their partner. There may be threats or fears involved in not being able to walk away. Sometimes a shared living situation or familiarity can cause trouble walking away.

Ohh, but you are. You are brave. And strong. That person isn't anymore in your life. You walked out. You were probably scared initially. Scared at the loneliness that would entail once you left the familiarity of your relationship. Maybe, whenever you thought of leaving your partner would ask for just another chance. And you gave in because you believed that deep down, that person truly cared for you. But you learnt to see through the veil, didn't you? You learnt that you need to take care of yourself. Waste of time, probably yes. But you learnt a valuable lesson. Never again would you let anyone treat you like a doormat. You're brave. Never let anyone else tell you otherwise.

You must have been scared to face the consequences. Every human being is scared to change, but don't worry, everybody would be scared.

It could be that you were afraid of them, or felt deep in your heart that you needed them. But, do not worry. You are not weak for staying with them- many people find it shard to leave. Yet, you are brave for enduring it this long.