Why can't I seem to move on?

Moving on is challenging. Personal growth is challenging. Moving on requires healing, forgiveness and confidence. When my heart is broken after a situation that I cannot move on, and think of 'moving on', I have to evaluate myself and understand why does this situation affects me that much to the point that I cannot stop thinking about it, makes me anxious, or it causes me fear. Sometimes it is because we compare ourselves to others... sometimes it is that shock and sense of unbelief that makes us unable to accept what has happened. When we don't dedicate time to analyze, understand, and accept, we cannot heal. When we don't heal, we don't forgive, and when we are not forgiving, we cannot trust or/and have confidence. It is a process, which begins within the heart, and a true desire to be free from negative feelings.

Break ups can be draining. You've invested a large part of yourself in another person. You've devoted time, energy, and feeling into being with someone. When the relationship ends, you can't get that investment back. You need to replenish what you lost. That can take some time. Building up your confidence and trust can be difficult. You shouldn't expect to be ready right away. Over time, be it weeks, months, or even years, it should all come back naturally. Good things take time. This is a natural occurrence. If you need help feeling ready, feel free to contact myself or another listener!

I'm sorry to hear this, sometimes we are moving on. we just don't realise our progress. if your feel your stuck in a rut you could use distractions techniques and find out what helps you. maybe you could watch a movie, talk to a friend or exercise. it could also be useful to talk to a family member or trusted friend about how you feel you can't move on. this could help you get more one to one support. maybe you could even try facing up to what your moving from such as a person or fear your worrying about.

Our feelings of love could still be there but instead of cooling it off, thinking more about it fuels those feelings which may lead to yearning. It makes us want what we once had, despite the difficulties that relationship had. I have only been in serious relationships and those are truly heartbreaking when it ended. I couldn't seem to move on as I kept on reminiscing how perfect I thought we were for each other despite the flaws we had. But I cannot continue picturing the past so I distracted myself with good thoughts and productive activities. I surrounded myself with supportive friends and family. Recently, I've learned that it's not moving on but "moving forward". It's unlikely to forget and just move on as if it's easy, but to move forward in life as you carry those burdens, hurts, and the memories of the past. That even if you do not forgive or was not forgiven, it takes acceptance of the reality and to continue on in spite of it.

Usually moving on requires also moving onto something. For one to move on, they will need new goals, values, focuses or at least something to keep them busy. Most common mistake is trying to move on from something without anything to move onto. My most preferred mentors is finding something that fulfills your values whether is volunteering, other people you care about, new beginning or anything that moves you in your heart to move onto a new better self, life, circle... Visaulise what you are trying to move onto instead of focusing what you are trying to move on from, focus on that instead of loss and pain. Fight with hope instead of heart ache

The truth about not being over it, about not moving on, about not being able to let someone go is simply, because you aren't ready to. It means you aren't ready to face a world where you will be okay without them. You aren't ready to see the instances where they were not right for you. Maybe we should see the bigger picture. Accept the fact that this wont work. Maybe you still have a hope of him/her coming back, which clearly will not happen. So you should accept the fact and let it go. Free yourself from his/her thoughts and focus in yourself and your growth. And soon you will do great.

I think there may be a couple things going on here. For many people, the only way to move on completely, is to get into another relationship. It's just how humans are. There can be a person shaped hole in your heart, and you need someone else to focus on specifically to get your thought processes past the past. You loved that person. It is probable that this person was an almost good fit, BUT for some big reason that interfered with the long term. This happens all the time. Humans have feelings. And nothing is more difficult than having to realize that what we want we can't have, or is bad for us. Re-framing your thoughts would help. eg. Mary was a good person, but she couldn't commit. That's OK, she has to live her life, I have to live mine. I will do better.

When I feel like we can not move on from something or progress through something then I try my best to let it go for a bit. I distract myself with an old interest or hobby that is tried and true for me. Get some More fresh air and move my body more. I meditate and make the goal to quiet my mind or focus only on one thing. I ask myself what is it that holds me back? Am I scared? Is there something I am struggling to understand. What is the next step? Can the step be broken into smaller steps? Whats the worst thing that could happen if I move forward? Whats the best thing that might happen?

Sometimes moving on is a lot easier than it sounds. A person may have treated you poorly whether that be cheating, lying, or not coming to you. But sometimes it's hard to remember that and instead you can foxate on the good times, even if there were very few of them, making it even harder to move on. It's important to remember that this is completely natural and one day, it will get easier. Remember you are worth more. And if actually they were good... Maybe they just weren't ready. Always reach out to talk to someone if you can.

The reason why you can not move on is that you have a big heart, and sometimes you want to keep someone because they once made you happy and who does not love having those types of memories. But that is the thing we need to stop thinking because we might not see it, but it's hurting us, and it is not letting us move on. I would say that it is something you should take baby steps; you can not just sleep it off. Making new hobbies or new friends is what helped me. but that does not mean that you should mask your feelings, you need to acknowledge the fact that you feel that way and make mental notes on how to improve and how to be happy on your own and not to depend on others for your happiness