Why can't I seem to move on?

We sometimes find it very difficult to let go of things that once meant the world to us. We love the memories and refuse to forget about them and that's ok but it won't be ok when you lose touch with reality.. it's totally normal to not want to move on, whatever your reasons may be , but it's important you learn when to let go when you are hurting too much. Ask yourself is this really worth my mental and physical health? Is what I refuse to move on from contributing positively to my life? If the answer is no then you must let go. Seek help if you must

The reason most of us can't seem to move on from something that was toxic to us, is simply because of the regularity and routine. Take a breakup for example; people tend to not miss the person themselves, but they miss the routine of when they were with them. The always having someone knowing they'd be there to listen, always having the plans with someone, and without it, life can start to feel lonely because we feel as if we couldn't make it work on one thing, we'll never succeed in another and that's just not the case. The truth is, we will be okay, but it will take time to get back to what makes us happy for ourselves rather than focusing our energy on other people.

When someone doesn't want to move on, it could be linked to many things like regret, fear, hurt, or sometimes just not being ready. First, figure out if you really want to move on. If you decide that you don't, then it's okay. In order to move on, you have to be mentally, emotionally and physically ready to move on. When you've gotten yourself ready to take the next step, analyze why you can't. Ask yourself questions like "why am I still holding on?" and "What the pros and cons are to letting go?" Accept how you feel and try to keep yourself busy. Idle hands make for wandering minds. Focus on yourself and do things that make you happy and better your situation. Remember that laughing is the best medicine. Share laughs with those that you care about. I have a hard time moving on so I had to learn to make myself happy and if it's meant to be it will be.

I think there may be a couple things going on here. For many people, the only way to move on completely, is to get into another relationship. It's just how humans are. There can be a person shaped hole in your heart, and you need someone else to focus on specifically to get your thought processes past the past. You loved that person. It is probable that this person was an almost good fit, BUT for some big reason that interfered with the long term. This happens all the time. Humans have feelings. And nothing is more difficult than having to realize that what we want we can't have, or is bad for us. Re-framing your thoughts would help. eg. Mary was a good person, but she couldn't commit. That's OK, she has to live her life, I have to live mine. I will do better. Why Can’t I Get Over My Ex? If the person was truly a bad force in your life, please seek some therapy. Continually choosing cheaters, abusers, addicts, or people doing criminal activities is a cycle you want to break. There is a drama aspect that can make these sorts of relationships very exciting, and so addictive. A little CBT, and you can learn to alter your thoughts to be more real in your own life Cognitive behavioural therapy (CBT) If you are having anxiety, you can also try EFT Emotional Freedom Technique (EFT) - Emotional Health Many people have found relief in this simple method of redirecting your thoughts.

well, cause you have looked at one point and just stumble upon there. Life is full f things. Though one stopped at one place till though life is going on. Philosophy!

It takes awhile to move on. Especially when you're still talking to them, distract yourself with good friends.

Hmmm because you are attached to someone who you cannot forget or life without you are addicted to someone

Moving on is hard and done in your own time. You may still have reminders in your life that are pulling you back. In other words, you might not have a blank slate to start anew from.

You probably can't seem to move on since a part of you is still hung up on that certain thing. You can't just wish for yourself to move on. It take time, and before you know it, you have moved on without thinking about it.

Letting go can be tough but the reason for me to not move on was that I was trying to forget whereas I should have tried to realize that I needed to remember the bad in order to identify the good which will come in future, once i did that, I could move on happily.