Why can't I seem to move on?

Moving on have certain steps. You have to understand that there is no quick path on moving on. First you have to acknowledge your feelings, allow yourself to feel the pain, to grieve your loss. Second understand that it takes time, dont force it. We all have different time of moving on, walk at your own pace. Third, Allow distractions, experience new things and search for new hobbies. Fourth, Talk to someone, allow yourself to unburden your thoughts and feelings buried in your mind. Talking is therapeutic, it's a way to heal. And lastly make peace with the past. Understand that you can't change it anymore. You are not in control of your past anymore, what you can control is the present and your future.

In answer to the question, "Why I can't seem to move on" In my experience when I get stuck and feel like I just can't seem to move forward is because I have not resolved the problem I am dealing with. Outwardly I think that I have made peace with the problem but that the interbrain has not been able to process the problem to satisfactory. So there is an inward war going on inside our heads. What has been helpful for me is to sit down and think about what I am stuck on and begin to brainstorm every aspect of the problem that comes to mind and then I can look at all I have written and weed through things that are not productive to resolving the issue and the things that are relevant to the issue which gives me a clearer view of where I need to start to work on. There'll always be times that we may get stuck in an area where there have been high levels of stress. This is just an opportunity for us to keep working on ourselves. The trick is to just not stay in that spot. Past experiences are ingrained in our bodies and our subconscious mind that it does become hard to move on. If you can't do it on your own it may be time to ask for professional help.

Thank you for reaching out! Being in a relationship for long and having that strong bond or connection makes it really hard when someone chooses to split from you or you choose to split from them. The intoxication of being in love with someone can be addictive. However, when they leave the exact opposite feeling happens. You can feel like there is a void in your life that you are unable to fill. It’s important to think about the potential triggers making it difficult for you to move on. Have relationships in the past ended in a similar way? Could it be that this is your first relationship so it’s incredibly shocking how things ended ? Are you looking for ways to be in contact with this person such as being tempted to talk to them on social media, text them or try to talk to them on the phone? If the answer is yes to you trying to make contact with them then this maybe the reason why it can be challenging to move on. Unfollowing them on social media maybe something to reflect on if wanting to try to move on. Perhaps there are some unresolved experiences of trauma in terms of people related to you abandoning you. Ask yourself do you reject others before they have a chance to reject you to avoid being hurt? You may want to explore what your defense mechanisms are, what helps you move forward with your life and what holds you back in your life. The answer on being able to move on would be a conversation with friends and family or discovering a new interest or hobby. Try discovering a new hobby or do some things that you love. There are tons of listeners that are willing to help you explore your thoughts further on 7 cups as well. Specific support such as Relationship support room is available on Thursday’s 24/7 for communication with members also going through any issues just like yourself who just want to open up too! :)

to truly move on you need to distance yourself from your ex. it's a mental game. everytime you remember or start to think about him, catch yourself in the act and consciously STOP it. get yourself busy as much as you can. Even when you do all of the above you will still think about them from time to time and try to cheat, but eventually you get carried away and busy and it starts to happen less and less until you suddenly realize you completely forgot about them and you don't have the urge to check on them anymore ! You are moved on!

It's absolutely normal to not be able to move on. Depending on your specific situation, you could be not moving on for many reasons. Sometimes people are really attached to something and it can seem impossible to let go. People get attached to other people, emotions, physical things, memories, ideas, and each and every attachment is valid. Another reason people have a hard time moving on is because if the person did, they'd affect everyone around them. When people are holding you back from being your highest self, it's best to get rid of them and let them go. Yes it could be painful, but if it's going to help you it will.

Moving on can take time which is completely normal. Everyone is different and it may take some people longer than others. If you are still interacting with the person, it's just going to make it harder for you to move on from them. You might want to be mutual or friends but you will need to wait for all romantic feelings to vanish. Take some time for yourself and don't stress about the other person. Do things that you enjoy doing or find a new hobby. Meet new people to talk to or find someone you can trust and explain the situation to them. For someone non-judgemental and understanding, you can try a listener on 7 Cups. The community cares about you.

Sometimes we find it difficult to find strength and ... - To not give up. Work on and try. But this is necessary. Your path won't be easy, but you'll pass it, I'm sure. No other way. Pull yourself together and understand, you can do more. - Move on. Failure haunts you over and over again, and trying again creates fear. It's okay, I understand you. But sooner or later this step will have to be taken. Do not postpone it, every new action and every new attempt will bring you closer to the result. - Work on yourself. Yes, sometimes it's easier for us to ignore our flaws and weaknesses than to believe in them. Yes, sometimes we think that everyone needs to change except us. But such thoughts will not bring us closer to a better version of ourselves. It's okay to work on yourself. You are not adjusting to someone, you are looking for yourself. - Look for a way out. Sometimes we choose to lie and stare at the ceiling rather than look for a way out and try to make a difference. Everyone is to blame: people, circumstances, but not us. This is not always the case. There is always a way out. Just find the one that's right for you. - Believe in yourself. But who will do it for you? You are strength. You can change everything. Just imagine how many chances, opportunities and options you have. Never despair.

Moving on or transitioning can be difficult. For me, I know it's tough to leave behind many of my friends whenever I'm leaving a school, group, or program. There are times, I'd love to have them come along with me, but the conditions may become different. Letting go of a time isn't always easy, and relationships can be hard to let go of. My friends have always told me that when one door closes a new one opens. It's sometimes tough to imagine that we may one day locate something of a relationship that outdoes the last. In such cases, I consider what it looks like if I continue to remember the things that were rather than what could result. Even if I don't get something that pleases me personally pe se...will the new conditions bring any sense of peace? Trying to focus on the current task can be tough. Sometimes, I change up the scenery to help me remember that there is forward that I am going.

Moving on is really difficult. It is hard to lose someone and essentially just let go. Loss is hard, loss of any kind, even the end of a relationship is a loss and with loss there is a period of grieving. When a person has been around and played such a role in our lives, it is a process to adjust to life without them. It is very important to give your time and space to process it. Sometimes it is not something we can rush, sometimes it becomes mourning of what used to be. Slowly things improve as we find ourselves again and who and what we are away from the relationship we had with that person. Understand yourself, be patient, be gentle and allow yourself to go through the emotions, it is the only way through.

It is hard to "move on" when physical and emotional attractions still exist. Another challenge factor is if this person is still an active part in your life. Being in communication with someone you are trying to move on from can be challenging. It is also challenging to move on when you associate that person with positive memories. Moving on takes time, healing and patience. Moving on can be comparable to breaking a bone. It feels like it your heart (or your broken body part) will never heal/mend. It takes months and sometimes years to fully recover from a broken bone. Don't expect your heart to heal faster than a bone. You may need to give your heart some time and space to heal.