Why can't I seem to move on?

I can't seem to move on because I'm stuck. I can't get out. Something keeps pulling me back. It's not about him anymore. It's the memories we had. It's the laugh we shared. It's the jokes we cracked. But now he's changed. I don't love this version of him. I loved the loved version. But that's gone. Long gone. So maybe I should be the new version of me. A version that's strong enough to let go,a version that understands life isn't over. A version that knows I deserve better than him....

Sometimes we can't seem to move on because we are focusing on what could have been than actually accepting the situation for what it really is.

Because you had something and now you lost it. Chemically speaking, you are experiencing a decrease in dopamine, which will physically make you ache and feel sad. The thing is, you can move on, it just takes time. Often when you're in the process it doesn't seem like you'll be able to because it's no fun and seems like it lasts forever, but really you will move on soon enough.

Because you are afraid of not finding someone that will love you for you like your ex lover may have

It's possible moving on is not always the right choice. In an era full of materialism, which promotes attachment to wealth and objects, but disparages attachment to people and memories as unhealthy, this may seem like unusual advice. But I believe it is often inappropriate to move on unless the other person definitely does not love you anymore, or if the relationship is unhealthy. Otherwise, keeping the attachment in your heart is normal. As long as it does not keep you from being attached to other people. You don't have to stop loving them in your mind, or stop remembering whatever it is you are attached to. You can find a new attachment while still keeping the old one, but accepting that it simply won't play out in real life. It may be possible to get the person or thing you miss back. But keep in mind that other people have the right to do what they want also, and that if it truly is right for you to be together, don't beg, and don't trash them if they don't see that yet. Just be your self, and keep your life going, and hope that they will see the light. Don't make them the center of your universe. People are not going to want to be with you if the only thing in your life is them. People want to be with someone who has their own life and their own character. Perhaps you aren't meant to be together in life, and your attachment is simply a spiritual one. An attachment doesn't have to be played out in real life, or formulate a relationship, to be meaningful. There are many people in our lives we are attached to and will always care about even if they are not in our physical presence.

If you're still in contact with this person, then you're hindering your chances of moving on. No Contact can be difficult, but it's worth it in the end. It's hard, but try not to spend your energy wondering what he is doing. As hard as it is to accept, he's most likely already moved on. If he's not focusing on you, you shouldn't focus on him.

Because a part of me wants to know what I did wrong and how I can fix it, even if it isn't fixable. Or even my fault. But I still hold on and dissect each part and pray I can make it work somehow.

It does take time to move on. Don't rush, just wait. Time will heal the pain and one day waking up, you'll find yourself no longer haunted by the past.

Because you want to hang on trust me when i say so...because it might be that you think you are ready to move on but your heart isnt really ready...so i think first you should ask yourself if you are fully motivated to move on if not tell yourself y u should move on ...

You can't seem to move on because you have your memories in the back of your mind..and it seems like you always trying to remember everything about it..when the person you love the most leaves you.. I bet you will remember every single sweet moment when you both were together..and the more you're trying to forget, the more it'll hurt you.. what to do? I know it'll be impossible to forget someone you love immediately, but limit the thoughts of him/her will do. Remember, you'll have a better person in the future. :)