Why can't i move on after the break up?

It is hard to just move on from a break up. You have so many feelings attached to this person plus so many memories. It is almost impossible to just immediately let go of all that. You need to provide yourself time to process. You have to allow yourself to heal. There is no certain time limit on how long it will take for you to go through the grieving process, so try not to put any expectations on yourself. It will get better with time and you will notice yourself getting better and getting through the pain. It is a hard time to go through, but you will get through it.

There are many reasons why people can't move on and hurt themselves this way. They might feel they have no other place to go. Or they feel they will never find someone so right for them again. Perhaps they choose partners who can never love them the same way in return, and yet can't accept that finality. Some just simply take longer than others. If you're taking longer to get over it than you have in past breakups, start by being kind to yourself. Don't beat yourself up for not moving on faster. you got this, and there are people here for you