Why can't I learn to open up to people?

Based on my experience, it's because we lack self-esteem. We believe that others don't care about what we feel. I feel like I'm simply a burden to others, so I don't want to open up.

Maybe in the past when you used to be open towards people they have broken that trust and have caused you to feel as if your problems don't matter, they may have made you feel like you don't mean anything to them and that may be the reason why you feel it is difficult to open up to people about anything.

That's no problem being shy. It's even positive at the beginning, because it makes the whole careful to not get to wrong people. You should tell new people that you just need some time to find confidence in them.

I think our experiences lead to the choices we make at least, I find that to be true in my life. No matter how much you embrace how unique you are and try to be comfortable with it, there are people in the world that will try to tear to you. I suppose that showing a person my vulnerable side has never quite been accepted the way I'd like for it to have and hence opening up is a struggle. I hate having to be pushed and when someone pushes me to open up, I withdraw more. I think I'm just waiting for someone who I know will not judge and it is extremely difficult to understand if a person is like that because I've found that people change in an instant.

It's not a matter of learning to open up to people, it's a matter of overcoming your fears, that you will be judged. You might feel silly talking about what's bothering you, but you shouldn't. Everyone struggles with something in their life and talking about it is the first step to dealing with the problem.

What most people don't realise is that opening up to people is a skill. It's not something that comes automatically to everyone as there can be fear, trepidation or apprehension surrounding it. But like any skill, it can be developed with practice. Try opening up to a listener on here, even just a little. You'll find as you open up, have someone who is there to listen and help, you'll be able to open up more freely in the future!

Sometimes our brains are worried about the way people respond. It's the only completely natural way that we know how to keep ourselves safe. Or what we think is safe. Try opening I promise to someone who has previously opened up to you and you might feel more comfortable

Because sometimes opening up can be hard No matter how much you try, its hard to trust others. And that is normal and something you can overcome

Because sometimes, the fear of the unknown can take a toll on your abilities. You probably are not ready to share how you feel to people who you think will not understand it.

Opening up to people often requires a sense of trust in the person you're talking to but more importantly, a sense of connectedness to the person that you are. If you don't feel secure in who you are, it's difficult to let others in. Perhaps building up who you are and recognizing your strengths and what you have to offer will allow you to share yourself more openly with others. Recognizing that each person has their own unique gift to offer--that's unlike anyone else's--is a great first step.