Why can't I learn to open up to people?

I struggle with opening up to people myself. I am just now learning as an adult that humans need healthy relationships with others in order to have a healthy, active social life and good support system, as we are social creatures by nature. Sometimes in life we have experienced pain or traumatic situations with others, and it causes us to close ourselves off from forming new relationships and wanting to be around others. Sometimes it can stem from a lack of self confidence or an inability to relate to the environment around you. There are many factors that can be the reason one would feel uncomfortable letting their guard down around people. What I can say, is that with time and healing, you'll allow yourself to eventually trust enough to let another person in your life. It takes patience and it isn't easy, but there is always someone who cares and when you are ready, you will establish those bonds. It's never too late to try something new.

Opening up to people is sometimes a daunting task. It can be even more challenging when you’ve received negativity in exchange for doing so. Finding someone in your life who has a good sense of boundaries and self-awareness can be useful when you’re looking to reach out. You may wonder what boundaries look like. As people, we can only take so much on our plate. It may be overwhelming for you to spill out your whole life story to someone you barely know. During quiet moments in your life (ex. riding in the car with your guardian, hanging out in the park with a close friend), share a bite-sized chunk of what’s on your mind. You’ll find your connection with that person strengthen even more and you’ll get helpful support too. This can be even more effective if you both make sure you’re ready for a heart-to-heart talk.

Just writing this is hard, as a person who has grown up in a large family, I was often told that I was the "rock", and that I was great for emotional support that I never cried. What people do not realise is that they were reinforcing this behaviour, making it a positive trait when one should really be comfortable to ask for help. Opening up is harder to do as you get older, because people who struggle are often taught at a young age that they should not; some people learn this in their teen years when they try to open up to somebody only to have their trust be betrayed. To answer; you can open up to people, you're just struggling to learn. You have probably suffered in a situation where you have tried to do so, but experienced something negative, or you have been taught from an early age to keep your emotions and your life to yourself. Now imagine for a moment - If you were sat next to your 10 year old self, what would you sat to them now?

There could be many reasons behind not open up yourself in front of others. It could be because of fear of being judged and then people will start disliking you and end up losing those people. It could because of inferiority complex disorder in which person think that his idea of seeing world will might not impress others and they will not talk to him again. It could be because they are not good at expressing their emotions. It could be that they are introverts and they don't like to talk much. Some people think they know they're right and feel like not sharing their own ideas.

Because its difficult at first. You'll get through eventually. Try having a simple conversation and it'll grow from there

I dont trust people easily. Or at all. Ive been cheated on in two relationships and my parents relationships arent a good guideline to follow.

Trust issues? Maybe you've been hurt before, and you're just afraid of it happening again. Just give it time. :)

There may be various reasons people can not learn to open up, this can be down to past experiences, lack of trust, but often opening up to someone you are not in a close relation to can be much easier.

Because you have to choose whom to talk with, if the person is trustworthy and open-minded then go for it. People nowadays are gonna judge you without even knowing who you really are so it's hard to open up with these kind of people.

I was the same way and still am at some points. Your past can have a lot to do with with it. Just take little steps and it will get better.