Why can't I learn to open up to people?

Opening up to people is a different experience for everyone. For many people, it really isn't even something you learn but rather something you just do, based on feelings and emotions. If you want to open up to someone but aren't sure of how exactly to do that you first need to have someone in your life that you trust. This can be very difficult and may take years. Many people never in their life feel like they can trust someone so it's a risk you have to be willing to take. When contemplating whether to take the risk or not you should consider the potential negative and positive outcomes. Try to really look at the big picture and hopefully the good outweighs the bad. Do this sort of calculation periodically. I tried it one month and didn't feel like the risk of possible good outcomes outweighed the bad so I waited. I kept trying for three or four years and finally I felt like I was ready to give it a chance because the good outweighed the bad. As we grow older and experience life as time goes on we change. It is important to monitor that growth and change. You can also smart small with "baby steps" so first starting by just talking to that person more regularly about simple things like how your day went or tell them about a song you like or a show you watched. This leads to positive social and emotional connections which I promise you, works miracles when it comes to opening up to someone eventually. It builds a good foundation to build the friendship and trust upon. The last little piece of advice I have is to not jump into it. Give yourself time to feel ready but also keep telling yourself that you will in fact be ready to open up someday. Today may not be the day but the day for it will come and I'm sure it will be a positive experience for you. Best of luck! :) -LC

Who says you can’t? I love talking to people and it honestly had me scared. I was scared I couldn’t do anything. But sooner or later I made a friend. They helped me cope with things I didn’t know I could do. A whole bunch of experiences. It’s not that you can’t learn to open up its that your afraid to do so. I was afraid and just through myself out there. But eventually it went all well for me. I know it seems hard and yes it is hard. I understand how it feels for you. So don’t stop believing and just go for it!

You can't learn to open up to people because it is very difficult to do it. If you open up to people, they can reject you, start to bully you, misunderstand or not understand you, etc. Furthermore, even if they understand you, you need to know that people aren't professionals, counselors, doctors. They can't heal you and expecting something more than some warm, understanding, compassionate words from them is expecting too much from them. Yes, you can quickly expect too much from them. They might also have prejudices and stereotypes which you aren't aware of and then opening up to them can harm your mood more than being quiet.

Sometimes, after we’ve experienced some rough friendships or other kinds or relationships we find it hard to open up to others, afraid of the outcome. However, the only way to learn to how to open up is to realize that not everyone will hurt you and that opening up to others will benefit you as much as the people on the receiving end. Though it is hard at first, practice makes perfect. It is a slow process, but a very worthy process nevertheless. Be patient with yourself and take care of yourself during it, as frustration can be a big part of the journey to opening up. However, it is not impossible!

Opening up to people is definitely not easy! When you open up to someone, you’ve to let your guard down, be vulnerable, and allow the other person to know more about you. Perhaps you’re uncomfortable with this, you could open up with things you’re comfortable with first. It doesn’t have to be something major that makes you uncomfortable! :-) it also has to depends on why you’re unable to open up to people - could it be because you don’t trust this person enough? I think it’s important to find your reason and look out for patterns! All the best :-)

It might be because of your previous experiences or maybe you just don't feel comfortable opening up to others anyway. That's fine. ❤️ You don't have to open up to people as soon as you meet them. And I understand that you feel like you can't open up. Though do you feel like maybe you're closer to some people than others like family or friends? Have you ever opened up to them before? You can also start to open up about something that you feel least uncomfortable about, and something that you might think the other(s) might have in common with you. Even if they haven't said anything about it before, maybe by you saying it, they can open up about how they feel and their opinions about that topic too.

For some it can be hard to open up. Anything from past experiences to the fear of not knowing can cause this. If you have opened up before and had a negative experience this can make you not want to open up again. Trusting someone with personal information is very difficult for a lot of people. This doesn't mean something is wrong with you it just means that you're going to have to work on this. It will take time to get comfortable enough to open up to someone and you also have to find the right person for you.

Maybe you're just shy or you are not good with socializing or maybe you don't trust anyone with your feelings which is completely normal. You should try to start with normal conversations and elaborate only if you're comfortable. Or else if you really need to vent, you could maintain a journal or you could record yourself, listen and come to a conclusion. After all who can get you like you. There are also another options you could try, like listening to songs which feel like your current mood. Because trust me listening to that one same lyric and saying "mood" is a whole ass mood and a mood lighter.

Opening up to people may feel like hard word. Expressing what's going through your mind and feeling exposed, may be difficult at first but once you've overcome it, you'll probably realize that's OK to speak your mind, and that probably you're not alone on the road. There's nothing to fear, when you're being yourself, regardless of everyone else's opinion; who you are is what makes you special (even when it doesn't feel that way). Opening up to someone you trust, might be a little easier, the important thing, (specially if there's some struggle) is to look for support when you need it. Remember, you're not alone :)

Opening up to people can be difficult, especially if you have just realized that you struggle with being open. For me, I have always been a reserved person that generally doesn't open up about my inner feelings, not even to my best friends. I realized that I have a hard time opening up to people when I met my now significant other, as he, when we were only friends, really helped me speak more openly as a person. Admittedly, it was a struggle to be open with him at first, but after we got even closer, I've found it much easier. What I learned from that experience was that it's alright to take a while to figure out how to be open, as it takes time. Maybe as you grow closer to others, whether they're friends or family members, you may find that it becomes natural to be more open.