Why can't I learn to open up to people?

I can't learn to open up to people because I'm so afraid of them judging me for what I say or who I am. All these worries run though my brain: What if the thing I think is weird? What if I accidentally offend someone for some reason? I've tried to open up to people in the past, or even really just talk to people in the past and they've judged me, and I've been letting that experience dictate my life and what I say to certain people or what I want to tell or not tell people, etc.

Sharing your emotions with others is a complex experience. Putting what you feel into words that others will understand is extremely difficult. In addition, it is very scary to share your personal life with others. If you are experiencing this, writing about what you feel could be a beneficial introduction to putting what you feel into words and opening up, even if it isn’t to a human. When you feel ready to open up to a person, listeners at 7 cups are always prepared to hear your voice. Remember, this is a safe place and your information is confidential.

It's not about you being able or not. You are able to virtually do anything. There's a catch though. Materialization of any object, takes a price. We don't know the price, it's too complex that is. But We can pay, and pay, and pay. Until price is achieved. Once the price is achieved, object is permitted to exist in physical world, and also supported (not just sporadically) So it's about payment really. Not if You can, or cannot. Then back to your particular question. You deal with pricey things, big things. And You tried a little, or not enough. You didn't pay enough for the change to appear. And it's the same as it was, for the time being. You have to practice more, understand more about the fear that is activated inside, more effort overall => price will be achieved, at some point. You need to keep going. And You also need to refuse to think or speak in terms of "can't" Better replace "can't" with "want" or "will" or "must" or "need"

I have an energy bubble that surrounds me. Inviting other people's energy into the bubble changes the energy that I get use to. It's tempting to just avoid this from happening but sometimes I think of all the opportunities I miss to find friendship and connection. I understand humans need contact with others and that isolation is unhealthy. Jeopardizing familiarity is a big price to pay. I get concerned with safety and the commitment it takes to nurture relationship and I sometimes just skjp it all together and opt for safety and consistency. The more I open up to others and have positive experiances, the more open I am to ithers, feeling secure.

Opening up to people isn't something you learn, it is something that you have to practice. If you have a person that you deem trustworthy, maybe tell them something about yourself that you don't usually tell people. Maybe your favorite ice cream is chocolate chip, or you don't really like the frosting on cake. It starts with minor steps like this, and then as the person gains your trust more and more, you can tell them more things. But like anything, practice makes perfect

It's because you're scared that people will have a bad impression about you. Which is actually wrong. If you learn to open up to people, you'll see the world differently. Talking to others is the medicine to most of the problems. It's the cure to anxiety. You'll have new paths open.

We are all different. Some are more temperamental, some are withdrawn. We can not all be the same. But it's not right and we are socially inactive. To avoid going to coffee, not to go to the movies, lunch. For starters, I would advise you to try to talk about something that is hard with a loved one. So you start working on yourself. I do not know what your level of self-confidence is? It's important to be sure of the conversation you are entering and have no fear. Then you start contacting other people that you are unknown to. And you try to be close / close to them. It is very important.

Humans get used to habits and it can be scary to break this habit. If you’re used to bottling emotions and have never opened up to people before, it can be frightening not knowing how they’ll react, being vulnerable and experiencing something new. Opening up and trusting people takes time and will not happen overnight , take small steps before pouring out your heart and soul - try sharing your thoughts or feelings anonymously first. This will help overcome any fear of being judged. Open up to a professional or authority figure first. Try writing down your thoughts on paper and handing it to the person - this saves you muddling up words or panicking in the middle of it. Keep trying, take things slow!

Sometimes it's hard to open up to people and that's ok because it can be scary breaking down your walls and letting someone in. I know I was always afraid to open up because I felt like people might judge me or feel like they had to care because I was opening up to them and not because they genuinely cared. I didn't want people to look at me with pity and see me differently to before. It's not an easy thing to do and sometimes it takes a while before you find someone you feel comfortable to talk to. I used to come onto websites like this because no one knew me but I realised I needed someone who really cared about me and I didn't know who that person was and I know that's the same with a lot of people but I promise there is someone out there that really cares about you and is waiting to hear every detail of your life, the good and the bad.

It's not a matter of learning its something that requires you to feel comfortable and honestly - it isnt the easiest thing in the world to do but If you do find the strength to do it then you are amazing! You are strong ! In an ideal world, a person would feel safe opening up to his family and friends, and would receive comfort and validation from them. Unfortunately, families and even friends are not always healthy. While you may wish to open up to your mother or your sibling or your oldest friend, consider whether or not this person has demonstrated that she or he can listen without judgement.