Why can't I learn to open up to people?

You can, it just takes work. I understand this feeling, and I know it can be difficult to open up to people. Talking to someone you trust or someone you care about is always nice. Just know that people who love you will never judge or ignore you.

There's nothing in this world you can't learn so first of all drop that attitude. Start by minor interactions, take part in mass activities, get involved in public speaking .

Opening up is not that easy since almost none wants to be fully transparent with everything going on in their lives to just anyone due to past bad experiences of letting wrong people in and later finding out the repercussions. We remain closed until we’ve decided who are the right people to let in. Here are some of the reason why people find it hard, to impossible, to open up Insecurities and lack of trust. One may be ashamed of something and have fear of being judged and misunderstood. You are hurt and feel nobody cares, even if you opened up they wont listen or understand you, you feel they might hurt you even more since you consider what you’re afraid open up to as your weakness. Upbringings. Might be some life events, could be something happened to you which taught you and made you all closed up. One may have grown up in a family where none talks much or opens up or they did and you never liked it. Being the only child may have taught you or gotten you used to keeping to yourself and doing things ‘one man army’

It sounds like that you are uncomfortable around other people and even shy to be around other people. These two factors make it hard to open up to others.

It really just takes time and trust. The more that you trust someone, and the more comfortable that you are around them, the more likely that you will decide to open up at some point.

The fear of being rejected is often a big factor, or the idea of being judged for finally opening up. This voice in your head that simultaneously is crying out to be heard but also fearful of the consequences such an action will bring. Personally that's what I've felt like when I've contemplated such a thing but it helps when your'e knowing either you can ultimately trust who your'e telling, that your'e anonymous and no one can judge you for telling or you know whoever your'e going toped up to hashed the same experiences and was such will not be shocked or react negatively to what you want to say to them.

I was someone who had a hard time opening up to people. And that was primarily because of the trust issues I had.. I always assumed that any person whom I opened up to would use what they know about me for their own motives and that telling more about myself would put me in a state of vulnerability. Now, I have always tried to maintain a brave front ..and posed myself as a very unemotional or indifferent person just to avoid being vulnerable. And this is precisely because i wanted to avoid every possible situation where I could be hurt. I literally feared being hurt. And opening up to people means also being open to being hurt. But i realized over time that not being open was a pretty toxic to my overall being. I had a hard time accepting people .. getting close to people .. making best friends. But a few people in my life helped me open up ..very slowly. I realized that's it's probably one of the most beautiful things that people can have between ..the ability to have a free conversation.. without the fear of judgement.. without the fear of being hurt.

Talking to people can be a little scary, espescially cause we dont know how they are going to respond. Sometimes, practicing by talking to yourself can help you learn how to hold the conversation and talk with others.

Its scary to open up and be vulnerable to people! We are always afraid of being judged or different than others, but the truth is, we all pretty much have the same feelings and thoughts. If you are insecure about your thinking and feelings, it might be best to open up to a professional such as a therapist who can help you organize those thoughts and assure you as you go through the process.

There is nothing wrong if you don't want to open up to people.. Everyone takes time and trust to open up.. And I feel when a person opens up too easily that might not be a good idea.. So don't worry it's normal.