Why can't I learn to open up to people?

I have a massive fear of rejection. I think it started at a very young age, since I experienced having to let go of my best friends and my favorite places due to all the moving my family went through. Not opening up to people naturally became a way to protect myself from getting hurt. As I grew older, I also started to figure out that people like to be around happy and funny people, but once you become serious and not so entertaining, the majority of people didn't care about me anymore. In addition to that, I was almost sexually abused by people I never dreamed of doing such stuff to me that I completely lost trust in people. I didn't understand how and why other people could live so nonchalantly in a world where people just hurt each other. I doubted their mentality, and eventually started questioning myself. Maybe I was too naive. Maybe I had to ignore all the darkness and confusion inside me and just accept the fact that I had to live lying to myself each and everyday that I was okay. I got stuck in a loop of my own thoughts without being able to find the right people that I could trust. Every thoughts and emotions had to circulate within me and conclude itself in a cage of my head. This process became so normal for me to the people opening up to other people became a huge taboo.

Learning how to open up to people is a tricky one. This only comes with practice. I've been there myself - I think I was overly insecure, and just didn't trust people. I always thought that my opinion didn't matter or perhaps that my opinion was even stupid. Building confidence in yourself is important before opening up to people, I think.

Opening up to someone is a hard thing to do. It's always a good idea to start small. Tell a family member about your day and how certain things made you feel. This way you start to get comfortable with talking about small things and learn to open up about things that worry you

Have you tried opening up to yourself first? If you can accept what you see and who you are, it will be easier for you to open up to other people. I know it feels like the world is constantly judging, but this is not always true - you are special the way you are and you got to give others a chance to know you. This is a step by step process, slowly but surely you'll get there.

Opening up to people is really tough, because when we open up to people we are vulnerable to them. Part of the reason why you can't open up to people might be a fear of being vulnerable. Is there something that has happened in your past that has made you mistrusting of others? Were you once rejected by someone for opening up to them? Try to identify where you are stuck, and it might help you open up.

Might be that you have had a bad experience with opening up to people in the past that has caused you to protect yourself. The idea is to realize that you are only human and so are the people who hurt you. Forgive and move on.

I believe it comes from fear of being vulnerable, no one wants to show weaknesses to others or allow others to see parts of them they are not the 'best' version of themselves.

It could have something to do with the fact that you maybe have trust issues, or either that you do want to burden people with your problems, or either that you are a very shy person.

I fail to open up to people as I am afraid as to what thoughts they might be having about me once I reveal the real me.

It could be a number of reasons as to why you feel like you can't learn to open up to people. Sometimes you can have issues opening up to people when you have problems trusting other people, you're not comfortable with yourself, you've been hurt before and you feel like nobody is listening to you. For me those would be the reasons why I would have a hard time opening up to others.