Why are we fighting over small and stupid things?

Often, fighting over 'small and stupid' things is an indication that there is a bigger problem. When we are emotionally healthy and are in a good place in our relationship, smaller issues are easy to deal with - we can approach them rationally, their emotional impact on us is minimal, and they don't usually lead to big blow-ups. Though if this is something that is frequently happening, it could be helpful to consider what might be the 'real' issue and focus on dealing with that. Then you won't want to fight over small things.

Sometimes relationships can reduce into a thousand small arguments between each other. It doesn't mean that it's not working or it isn't right, you just need to address the issue together and move forward. From experience, embracing and holding each other can sometimes be enough to calm you both down and then you can look back, laugh, learn, and move forward together.

Sometimes when you get stressed, anxious, worried or tired, you may not always talk about how you feel or what's on your mind. This means that the smallest things can bother you because you're already thinking of the other issues going on and then you end up taking it out on the person closest to you. From personal experience, communication is key in any relationship and friendship and it helps to stop the arguing if you just let the other person know you aren't feeling great today. At the same time, sometimes you might just be incompatible with someone so you may need to take a step back and think why this keeps happening and if you're truly happy.

There are so many reasons why people fight over trivial things. I've found that usually when something else is going negatively in a person's life, they tend to take it out in other ways. They displace their emotions. Sometimes dealing with that particular situation becomes too difficult or frustrating and the way to vent would be to argue over things that don't matter whatsoever. On the other end of the spectrum, maybe there was just some miscommunication taking place. Either way, communication is always key in order to figure out what is wrong (what the problem/issue is) and how best to fix it!

Its natural for us to have arguments, we're human! However it is also good to be aware of healthy and unhealthy relationships

Well in my experience the people might be changing, evolving and just end up growing apart. There are a number of reasons just depends on what fits you.

Bad communication skills. There's a difference between being assertive and being aggressive. If you approach an issue calmly, 9 times out of ten, it won't lead to any arguments.

because it makes us feel alive sometimes there are things we don't want to fight over but we do anyways simply because we feel alive doing this

that is normal in relationships to fight over small and insignificant things. focus on what you both want and try to hear each other out because it is the small things that mean the most and can lead to bigger arguments over worse things. if one person feels unheard for example, try to listen and understand your partner

Everything in life is worth fighting for sometimes we are clouded by the bad times and it's hard to see that it can all change so quickly if we work hard and keep pushing through.