Why are we fighting over small and stupid things?

We tend to fight over smaller and sillier issues because we have experienced similar things in the past. Since we do not address these issues that continuously occur, it tends to build up, causing us to fight over something so small. It is important for all of us to communicate the things that we do not like and come to an agreement with the people in our life. Understand what is triggering you, why this triggers you, and how you can resolve the issue. For instance, let's say your girlfriend chews very loud and this bothers you. First, identify that her chewing is what annoy's you. Then figure out why. Maybe you want peace and quiet, or you can't hear your favorite show. Then talk to your partner about ways you guys can work through this issue.

We fight over small and stupid things because most likely because we are stressed. They may not know that are being snappy for something small until a 3rd party interrupts and mentions the conversation that they overheard. If its done showing compassion and gently, the stressed person will be in the right mindset to accept the constructive criticism. At times people(person(s) of the verbal attack) are at the wrong place, at the wrong time, when any small matter could make someone erupt like a volcano. Other than that Narcissists & Psychopaths also choose to pick arguments over something small but that's a completely different scenario!

Based on my experience, it is because I build up all of the big things that someones says to me and when I have finally had enough, I will be mad over something little. Also little things add up. I may think someone is fighting over something stupid or little but to them, it means a lot. So instead, I place myself in their shoes and try to think about what it means to them. Also when I fight over the little things it is usually because I am projecting onto someone else. I am taking my anger out on them about something mall because I am frustrated.

Small and stupid things can become significant when there are feelings that are not being heard. Talking about your issues and feelings helps lead to a deeper understanding of yourself and your feelings. This will help you figure out how the small issues relate to the larger ones. The small and stupid things will seem important but talking can help you understand their small importance in your life. This will help you to resolve them in your relationships. Reaching out to understand why the small and stupid things matter so much is a great step to not fighting over them in the future.

I think we fight over small and stupid things because we get caught up in the moment. We don't realize its small and stupid until we look back on it and realize that it is. This might be because we grew and matured, or because we realize that it doesn't matter. My answer is that we get caught up in it like we get caught up in everyday life. We don't realize until we take a step back to breathe. Our vision is narrower when we are too caught up and we don't realize things until we take a step back.

One thing I've always had to remind myself is that something which seems small or stupid to me may not be seen the same way by the other person. To them, there is a bigger cause behind the fight. We have to take a step back to try and understand this. Sometimes, we ourselves have a bigger cause behind our smaller actions. When we are fighting, we are trying to send out a message and this is fuelled with emotions. Sometimes the message we are trying to send out opposes the message of the other person, and sometimes we are fightijg for the same thing but there is miscommunication involved. Always remember, when you fight you are focusing on your own message and therefore failing to receive the message of the other person. This is where we need to make improvements.

Fighting over minor inconveniences that seem insignificant is often times a signal that there is a larger problem at hand. For example, Jane and Joe are in a relationship. Jane is frustrated with Joe, because he ignores her frequently, slacks off on housework, and is irresponsible with his finances. When Joe forgets to shut the bedroom lamp off before leaving the room, Jane gets extremely frustrated and starts an argument. While this instance is minor, it could stem from the fact that Jane is already frustrated that Joe is behind on paying the electric bill, and and rarely does much around the house. He calls this insignificant, and does not want to argue, but Jane takes offense, as she already feels ignored. Generally, fighting over the little things stems from these larger issues that we must discuss with our loved ones in order to maintain happy and healthy relationships.

We can feel scared of losing the people and so we take our insecurities out on small and stupid things. It's best for us to ask each other what's on our minds after we give ourselves time to reflect and calm down our initial emotions! This is coming from my own experiences with friends. Unfortunately, I didn't know at the time as to how important communication is but communicating in any relationship and with yourself is what will bring success to each relationship. Please, if you have fought with someone recently, make sure you can underline your boundaries as well as your values! Much love my friend.

Because the actual big structural problems need an outlet. Mostly there is a completely different reason underneath, for example that we are dissatisfied with ourselves or our environment or that we do not understand each other properly. It is usually worthwhile to stop and look at where the real problem lies. And if that doesn't work in the heat of the moment, you can get into the habit of taking a short moment afterwards to reflect on where the real problem was. We cannot change others, we can only try to change our perspective on things.

I believe that small and petty fights are due to internal unresolved emotions. People unawarely project their emotion onto others as a form of a defense mechanism. Being unable to express your emotions leads to irritability and feelings of isolation. Having a support group is an important resource for any individual dealing with negative emotions. Which is why 7CUPS is such an important resource as it is able to connect with people all over the world. This platform serves as an opportunity to become support groups for any individual. As we talk with others, we can create a safe place for them with a goal to encourage and boost up moral.