Why are we fighting over small and stupid things?

i think it's never about those small things, it's what underneath that. Maybe the past, the resentment, the things that's been unsaid, withholds, maybe expectations, or needs that are not being met. Sometimes we are just tired, or hungry, or sad. Sometimes we don't know how to express ourselves, or how to ask for what we need, and then it comes out all wrong. Sometimes we feel disconnected from another person and start a fight just to feel them, a fight feels better than loneliness and disconnection. and then there are all the triggers - tone of voice, choice of words, body language - sometimes it's not about us, but it's about past relationships, childhood, traumas... we are complicated beings, and we don't do relationships very well, we are trying, we are doing the best we can, but we are also afraid to be hurt. And here we are

We fight over small and stupid things because of lack of communication, misunderstanding and disrespect. 1. Communication - If we do not learn to communicate how we feel about certain things that others do to us, we get to bottle up and when we cant take it anymore or when upset we lash it out, therefore communication to me is very important. 2. Misunderstanding - If we respond without understanding what the other person ment, we end up fighting and that lead to saying stupid things that we sometimes regret afterwards. It is important to always ask the other person what they mean if they said something that you do not understand. 3. Disrespect - If you do not respect the other person you will not see a problem in saying stupid things and not apologise afterwards, because disrespect cause you not to care about the other person's feelings. Respect always intrigues love and great thoughts about the person you respect.

If something bothers you, it is not small and stupid! We are humans who have feelings. We can rarely just stop our feelings from getting in the way. It's a natural thing. However, instead of fighting, try to calmly talk things out. You can allocate time for each person to share their thoughts then make a conclusion on things. Fighting may only cause more emotional distress. Talk calmly. Share your problems with each other and try to compromise with each other. Communication is key! Always remember that. Many things can be solved by communicating. We just have to be patient and compassionate!

Because we all keep expectations and sometimes we get frustrated when people we look up to the most fail to keep upto our expectations. Also I feel one of the main reasons behind conflicts is lack of communication. People usually don't listen to the other person's story making their self assumptions leading to misunderstandings over small issues. The best way is to communicate properly and stop overthinking and making assumptions. Many petty issues can be dealed in calm way if talked about properly. I hope this message was useful. Rest we trained listeners are here to help you out and listenbto you and empathize with you.

because sometimes we feel like we have no control over things that matter the most or matter a little bit to us. or because you never expressed how you felt to others, so you pent up anger or irritation on the small things, insignificant problems, and discussions from the past. arguing is a normal thing in all human beings, but it is good to manage what you tell others and what to keep to yourself. a very good way to manage that kind of things is to visit a therapist or someone you trust, to discuss about those problems

You are fighting over your status, rank and self perception. The way you view yourself in your social circles and overall pride occurs through your interaction with the people you surround yourself with. If you find that the fights you are having are over small things that do not matter then please turn your attention over to the emotional aspects of the argument and not the logical. What would it mean emotionally if you "won" this argument with your competitor? Have they wronged you in some way and you are trying to reclaim power in the power dynamic of your debate? Is the time and energy you spend together taxing and could be used doing something else? Ask yourself if it is worth it to continue bumping heads when the logic dose not matter and the emotional debates always end up the same way.

you may be fighting over small and stupid things because you guys don't communicate well and don't speak to each other about what's bothering you guys and how you can fix it, communication in a relationship is very important and that's what some people don't understand it may be hard but it will feel great to talk things out instead of always arguing. Without communication your not going to be able to handle your problems and what's the point of being in a relationship if there is no talking about problems and trying to fix the problems and trying to understand each other and how both of you feel.

People has differences. We have different opinions, beliefs, attitudes and etc. What we can do is to communicate with them, talk and listen. If its in relationship then it's best to discuss things why both of you are arguing over small and stupid things. Talk and listen. Listen to what one has to say and try to compromise. If it is about the family especially your parents, let them know your side. Make them underatand by approaching them nicely and talking to them how you feel. You see, with the right communication everything could be fix. Its just has to be a matter of speaking and trying to understand what the other party has to say. This will help you to become more transparent and understanding.

Sometimes in a relationship, is the small and stood things that caused the most damage. Often, there are other more important issues to discuss and these are indicators of that very topic. If you have a resentment, or are angry at your partner, not acting on this takes these small concerns to a more pressing level. Often pride gets in the way, not wanting to admit you're wrong disengages communication and sets you apart. My experience is never go to bed angry, having the courage and humility to take that first step opens the channels again and lays ground for open discussion without judgment

Sometimes, small fights are related to a bigger problem. Try to figure out if there is anything else bothering the two of you, if yes see if you can solve it. If there's no bigger problem, try having a talk and listening to what both of ou have to say, maybe the problem is the way you two react to things. If that's the case, whenever you feel a small fight come, focus on your breathing to relax your mind, and figure out a rational and helpful way to react. I hope that I helped you today, and that you will be able to figure out your problem with the other person.