Why are we fighting over small and stupid things?

because when you love somebody. At first, you get obsessed with everything they do and are. Then, at one point everything they do is annoying. Which is when you need to step back and recall why you fell for them in the first place

People have the urge to find things to fight about. There is always something wrong and some people find the need to point it out. It then becomes a snowball effect and people start joining in on the fight.

We fight over small and stupid things due to egoism. We care for egoistic thoughts rather than understanding the things and move on.

Communication solves every problem it just take that one person to sit down and just explain how they feel

It's a perfectly normal thing for humans to do. I do it myself, because in the moment, I feel like it's important. At times, we lose sight of what is really important because it can attack or values and morals.

Fights over small and unimportant things usually happens when there is a lot of pent up anger or emotion that has built up over time. It happens when we bottle up our discontentment with ourselves, our situations, our careers and with one another; saying nothing and letting those feelings grow more volatile in our minds all the time. Then after awhile, the emotions start seeping out. Everything becomes a tinderbox to blow up and argue about. If it is happening, it's time to look at what is REALLY bothering you deep down. Because that's the source of all these little explosions. Is it that the house is cluttered all the time? Or is it really about being the one who cleans up the clutter when other people contribute 0% effort to help you out - while they are guilty of making the mess? Is it even about the mess? Or that you feel like you are the only one giving effort in the relationship and caring for everyone, while getting ignored and getting nothing back? Chances are the other people in this situation are also blowing up over little things because they have pent up emotions too. Guilt over not being tidy, or guilt over not meeting your expectations. Maybe they are angry over your reactions, because they don't understand or accept the idea of personal accountability. They just want to distract and intimidate you with emotional outbursts over little things. The fights could have nothing to do with your relationship and be pent up frustration with your careers/work environment. And while you cannot get things off your chest at work, all the frustration comes out at people who care about you. They are safe to complain to and bicker with, because there's no chance they'll fire you or make you face financial consequences for your outbursts. Stress of course, is the fuel to the fights. It takes some time to figure out where the source of that stress is coming from and deal with it head on to stop the cycle of pent up anger from taking over.

1. Remember not to sweat the small stuff. Instead of making every little molehill a mountain, agree to not make something a battle unless it’s truly important. Realize that not every disagreement needs to be an argument. Of course, this doesn’t mean you bow to someone else’s demands when it’s something you feel strongly about, but take the time to question the level of importance of the matter at hand. 2. Practice acceptance. If you find yourself in the midst of a conflict, try to remember that the other person is coming into the situation with a totally different background and set of experiences than yourself. You have not been in this person’s shoes, and while it may help to try to put yourself in them, your partner is the only person who can really explain where he or she is coming from. 3. Exercise patience. Granted, it’s hard to remember this in the heat of the moment. But stopping to take a few deep breaths, and deciding to take a break and revisit the discussion when tensions are not as high, can sometimes be the best way to deal with the immediate situation. 😚💙💙💙

Usually, the small and stupid things are just a representation of the not-so-small and very important things. Often times, people tend to suppress their feelings and emotions, thereby not giving it an out. But oh no, the psyche does not like that, not even a little bit. It will ALWAYS find a way to get that pent up emotions and frustrations out. And most of the time, its main weapon is anger. This is then channeled into the most insignificant fights and people don't even realize that the cause is just so much deeper than that. If this is occurring often, it's time to sit down and talk. Not about the small, stupid things, but what underlies it. It's time to get honest with yourself and your thoughts.

There's a possibility that these "small" things are being undermined and personalities are clashing. lookout for red flags that present themselves within the relationship.I If this is a reoccurring scenario then it could escalate, so try to tackle things as soon as possible. There is group or couples therapy available but also take a step back to assess whether you are happy with that person and if there is anything that can be done to prevent these arguments from occurring, for example working on the ability to compromise, taking turns and communication skills will hopefully prevent the small and stupid fights.

you could never fight over simply small and stupid things. personally every fight that occurs because someone was affected by something does not make it small nor stupid. they most likely started the fight because it hurt them, or you. everyone's feelings are valid even if its the smallest thing ever to you or to the other person. so maybe validate the persons feeling or yours, don;t gaslight yourself saying that its small or stupid. if it matters to you, it matters vice versa. so think twice dont be afraid, but if it is really dumb like if you wore the same thing, talk it through and dont ruin the friendship