Why are we fighting over small and stupid things?

Fighting over meaningless things can be a sign of a deeper conflict. You might try talking to whoever you're fighting with and try to discover what the deeper conflict it and then work through it.

It's easy to let emotions build up until we explode and say things we may not mean. It's best to take some time to talk your emotions out, either with the person you are fighting with or with someone else.

If there is a lot of tension or a bigger issues that hasn't been solved it can lead to everything becoming a fight. I suggest sitting down and discussing about what you both are truly unhappy with, what you want to change, and what you expect and more than likely you'll solve the big issue which will solve the little ones.

I think this happens because the big issues are difficult to talk about, so we might get bogged down on trying to achieve instant gratification from "winning" the small fights. In the end, no one truly wins, unless they communicate with each other compassionately and non-violently. Are you able to recognize when you are beginning to fight over a small thing?

These small and stupid things may be merely acting as outlets for resentment that is already in you. We usually have good awareness about weather we are upset or not but we generally have very less awareness about what we are upset about. We tend to displace that upset into whatever reason we can find. So you should take your time and analyse the possibility weather one of you or both of you have something to be upset about. Its quite possible that the reason is unrelated to anything you might expect

Sometimes is that just out love.

We are too scared to actually address the underlying cause of our feelings, emotions and reactions to what the other person is doing to bother us. It also may have been left unsaid for a long time causing our initial feeling to never get addressed and or validated, leaving us feeling a build up of resentment and causing us to be overly sensitive to any or possible all of the interactions with this other person until that work gets done.

The question is why? We have a certain desire to see things or person around us, in a way we like it to be. We consider our ways, our values, our wishes, our lifestyle, as ultimate right thing, same goes with another person, and then there is lack of patience to think prior to speak. These are the two major whys.

Maybe you aren't just fighting about stupid things, maybe there's a bigger problem that you need to address. The best thing to do is to get the person, sit down, and to talk through you all's problems.

Because it's our nature and our insecurities. We tend to fight over things about which we care, even if they are not really big. Sometimes we want what we want, we get stubborn, like we dont agree to things which ain't good for us. So yeah it is normal.