Why are we fighting over small and stupid things?

From experience, couples fighting over very small and stupid things is normal. Couples fight all the time. However, if it becomes a very constant thing, then there is definitely something bigger going on that you and/or your partner haven't discussed. For relationships to really work, there needs to be 100% openness and honesty. As to the WHY aspect, it could be because you're suppressing more important feelings, the small things kind of push your feelings over the edge. One of the worst things to do in a relationship is not being honest with your partner about your end goals, or whatever it may be. I hope this helped clear things little bit. I'm here to listen if you need it! Good luck

Relationships are no walk in the park. But that’s what makes them exciting. It’s like taking a road trip, what makes the road trip fun is the adventure you experience. It would be so boring if it was just one long straight and narrow road. The road trip is more exciting when you go make different turns, go over those bumps or those hills that make your tummy turn. It’s the same with a relationship, it’s a roller coaster ride of different emotions and feelings. Often we take out our frustrations on the ones we love the most and in a relationship it happens to be your partner. Trying to identify what makes you fight over these small things could help your relationship grow and thrive for the better.

Fighting over every single thing and over the smallest and stupid thing is common and we almost see fights everyday. We always think about our desires. People are like this. Some people are greedy and and don't want others to be happy. They must understand others feelings. Sometime we will never understand others only if we were in their place and felt what they feel. People fight over everything, they have to be initiator and give what the other side wants. If we were all like this and think about others, the world will be the the best place and we will live peacefully.

Sometimes in our relationships, we find ourselves fighting over seemingly insignificant things. That behavior can be confusing for us, especially if we love the person a lot and don't know or understand the underlying cause of the arguments. Often in these situations, it could be that surface issue (the "small" thing being fought over) is a actually just a scapegoat, taking the blame for pre-existing frustration or conflict. If underlying "bigger issues" are unresolved in a relationship, it can leave resentment which can trigger arguments over smaller more frequent matters. Conversely, the reason for such conflicts over small issues could also simply be that emotional or physical needs are going unmet. It may be a good option, next time a conflict occurs, for both parties to take a personal inventory. "Am I hungry/cold/tired/etc.?", "What am I feeling right now?", "Am I sad/angry/frustrated about something else first?", "Is my response proportional to the issue at hand?" Such questions might be helpful in shedding light on the heart of the issue and the cause of the argument.

Sometimes fighting over silly things is derived by the emotions suppressed about more important issues. Maybe communicating and opening up can be a good first time in understanding a little bit more why we react that way for silly things. Maybe next time an argument pops up, ask each other/yourselves why do you feel like that and with each question it could help to dive deeper into the truth. Everyones feelings are valid and no one can tell you otherwise, just as you cannot do the same towards others. Listen and communicate so you can work through your relationship and understand each other and yourselves better.

That’s a great question. I’m not sure whether you mean personal matters or just the general world, but either way it’s probably noticeable in your life. There really isn’t an answer for that, the people fighting might think the things you view as small to be important and large issues at hand. Sometimes people simply want to propel themselves in the social aspect of society. It definitely depends on what issue you’re talking about, who’s speaking about the issue, and what is happening in the current world. I know this didn’t quite answer it but it’s the best I could explain.

Maybe there is a bigger problem underneath that needs to be addressed. Often times we suppress our emotions and then get agitated at small things. Although it might look like your partner is getting mad at you for a small thing, he/she might have a bigger problem with that needs to be addressed in order to put an end to these small fights. It could also be the reason that you are going through a different problem in life, which is affecting your overall mood causing these little fights. Your partner might also be going through the same thing.

The relationship may be toxic, and so fights often break out. He might blame you for everything or it's the other way. Either way, toxicity has a lot of fighting, but you don't want to leave cause you think you/re in love. But in all reality, you aren't, and I know that sucks but sometimes that's the truth. Give it time and maybe they'll change, but don't ever go back if they don't. Fighting a lot is caused also by insecurity about things and that can also be toxic. Find a way to trust each other, and make it known you do too.

Fighting over small or stupid things is a common issue nowadays. It is usually caused due to people's inabilities to get away with a problem in their life, creating feelings that are constantly making the person being annoyed or distracted by those little things. In some other cases maybe the person just feels that life is unfair...when everyone knows that life usually is not fair...and that person wants everything to be equal and in harmony. There are many reasons this issue happens and it is not only about health problems...it is maybe due to a person's character or way of living...

There's very likely something under the surface that you're both ignoring, and the bitterness and resentment from that issue is spilling into daily small and stupid things. Sit down and figure out what the root issue is. One wise professor once said "It's not about the bread". He then tells a story of how his wife would always get mad when he didn't close the bread bag. She would get so mad and he wouldn't understand, and lash out in return. Eventually they sat down and talked. Turned out it wasn't about the bread. It was.. I believe it was that she was upset he wasn't being attentive and thoughtful with what he did around the house. Point is: there's almost always an underlying issue. Figure out what it is.