Why are breakups so hard to get over?

Break ups are hard because you get used to being in a such a routine and sharing memories with your loved one.

You've opened your heart to someone and that leaves you vulnerable. Anything that you've put your heart into that doesn't work out is going to sting, but that's part of being human, and it's terrifying and wonderful and what makes life worth living.

Breakups are hard to get over simply because of that emotional dependency. When a person is used to interacting with their significant other everyday, that creates a dependence for both people. Once that union is broken, it feels like a part of you is missing- simply because someone that used to be part of your everyday routine is now gone.

Because you are losing someone you were loyal to, someone for whom you cared (or still care). You are also losing the entire future that you planned with this person.

You need to surround yourself with people who make you smile it will be hard but time is the greatest healer. Also stop contact with the other member break all ties is the best way

Because it's tough to deal with that part of you that is forever changed by the relationship. At times it might even feel foreign, like it belongs to the person who changed it. Learning to accept the change as part of the new self is what is so tricky.

Because you opened everything up and became vulnerable to your partner.

Our eyes are drawn to pretty objects. Seeing beauty is pleasurable to our brain. But, that’s only attraction. As we mature, we look past attraction for more stable qualities, like good character, strong moral compass, the stuff that matters. The stuff that actually define who we are as human beings. Skin color, weight don’t matter when you’re talking to someone. What matters is what lies beneath the skin. Beneath all of the things that we are and are not attracted to. Being in a relationship means exposing ourselves to our other halves, we are emotionally naked when we're in a relationship. Having a person that we trust that much is like finding a needle in a haystack.

Humans are habitual creatures that don't respond to sudden changes in life. When you're in a relationship, you get used to a person and they become a part of your life and schedule. For many, they turn into people you're emotionally dependent on and that makes it difficult to accept what happened and to come to terms with it. It's often due to their habitual presence, the emotional dependency you have on them, and the " accepting that it happened" that makes it hard to get over break ups.

Because, you have given that person a part of your heart. Let them in to your life. After that they sort of become a family member. Its always rough when a family member disowns his family right?