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Whats the best way to get over your ex moving on before you do?

Profile: Luke2495
Luke2495 on Mar 1, 2020
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One of the ways you can get over your ex moving on before you do is by focusing on yourself. Think about how you can make yourself happy and content. Moving on is not a race. As with any aspect of our lives, once we start focusing on what we have instead of what others have that we do not, our perspectives shift. Progress occurs even with small steps. One good place to start thinking about you is by keeping a daily journal that tracks your activities, your emotional state, and the level of support you're receiving from your peers. After you have moved on, this journal will be a great reminder of how far you have come.
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Profile: Loveydoveyfrog
Loveydoveyfrog on Mar 6, 2020
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You should try to avoid them on social media, and their new partner. Do not look at pictures. Do not check up on what they are doing. Just forget about them. Another thing you can do is take a break from social media entirely. You can pamper and focus on healing yourself. YOU TIME is what you need. Watching lots of funny movies, eating chocolate, and calling a friend ALWAYS worked for me. Eventually you will just forget those people. You will move on and find a new person. It will take time and healing yourself. Everything will be fine.
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Anonymous on Mar 13, 2020
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The first thing is knowing your worth. Getting to understand that you deserve the extra ordinary, by that whatever action your ex might take must not disappoint you because for all we know he/she might be the most hurt one. They will do anything to prove that they are not so as soon as you realise your worth you can easily let go. If he/she goes then definitely they were part of the process. Henceforth self care is important after a breakup and the zeal to be better than the person you were with the ex so that when you finally meet the real one you will not compromise your worth.
Profile: Waka
Waka on Mar 21, 2020
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If my ex gets moving on before I do, that's a good thing. Being able to move on is hard so I'd congratulate anyone who can muster the strength and finesse to do so. For me personally I need to talk to someone about my grief, spend some alone time and try to focus on my hobbies. The tricky part is finding the balance between resting to cope with my emotions and being productive. I'll most likely feel sad and inadequate that I'm being left behind. But as life experience goes, this sadness probably wouldn't be the first time, nor will it be the last. So just hold on, because life is a race.
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Anonymous on Mar 26, 2020
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In my experience, I always found that I need to purge my exes from my social media and limit contact with them. It is hard to watch the person you love be with someone else, but at the same time, they deserve happiness just as much as anyone else. In my last relationship, I found that I did not fully feel "over" them until I came to terms with everything that happened in our relationship and gave myself time to fully process everything. Being able to sit back and evaluate the good and bad parts of my past relationship helped me grow and move on from them in a healthy way.
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Anonymous on Mar 29, 2020
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Remove them from all social medias or try to not use them at all, don't dwell on past things. It is hard from the start but friends are an assets in these types of situations; and at the end just try to move on. I know it's easy to say but at the end that's all there really is to it. Find your happy place and go there when you start to think about your relationship and do not make the mistake of repairing something that's already broken, it will only bring pain and suffering. Just devote to yourself and your hobbies
Profile: Anonymous
Anonymous on Apr 5, 2020
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To focus on yourself and become a happier, more confident person (which will naturally make you more attractive too). Don't waste time thinking about your ex. He's not worth the time. When you've healed yourself, you can find someone even better who will not make you feel like you're inadequate, like your feelings are unwanted, like you're too emotional or sensitive or that you are wrong just for having feelings and whatever you do will never be enough. You should be with someone that is kind and caring to you, who can address your emotional needs and who does not only give you attention when is convenient for him. Do not be with a person who is so self-centered.
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Remember that everyone is different and everyone copes differently with different situations! It's ok to move at different paces, just do your best to keep yourself from comparing yourself to others. Also remember to be open with friends and family members about how you are feeling! It's always more difficult to deal with an ex moving on before you do when you are trying to put on a facade and pretend that it's not bothering you. It's ok to be upset that your ex is moving on, whether it is before or after you do! Feelings take time to go away.
Profile: luminousWords
luminousWords on Apr 26, 2020
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This can be challenging because it can make you feel more lonely and isolated than before. A lot of people say the best way is to get "back in the game" and find other people - and that can be useful for some people. Personally, what has ultimately worked for me is to focus on myself and confront the fact that it can be hard to be alone with myself. I got into exercising, trying new things (crafts, cooking/baking), and simply catching up with old friends I hadn't talked to in awhile. It's never easy, but know that a lot of people struggle with this and you can take this as an opportunity to reflect on where you are in life and, more importantly, where you want to go. You don't need anyone to be an awesome person on your own :)
Profile: 2genpoet
2genpoet on May 3, 2020
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An intimate relation is not easy to get over. If you are emotionally invested in a relationship it takes a long time to get over the negative aspects. The positive spects of every relationship should be retained for ever because it shows that you are a person who is capable of love and being loved. So in my opinion you never really get over any relation, you just learn to remmber it without the attendant rejection and othe negative emotions relate to it. When you are truly invested in an intimate relation then it does take a long time . Perhaps your ex was less emotionially invested or better equipped by her childhood upbringing and personality to deal with the negative side of the break up and thus was able to move on
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helpfulBlossom8619 on May 9, 2020
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Talk to you friends, go out with them and enjoy yourself. don't worry about your ex, it isn't about him anymore its about you. Live your life to the fullest and forget about him! Enjoy yourself! and remember that it is not about him, once you've broken up with him you need to forget about him, try and do it as best you can, enjoy yourself. Maybe find anew hobby, a sport could help you with any emotions your feeling. reading may also help, or something more calming like knitting or crochet. Overall I don't think its the most important thing to try to move on first. Just focus on yourself and it will all come naturally!
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Anonymous on Jun 4, 2020
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One way is to think about how much you had invested into the relationship. If they didn’t give as much as you did, they will not be as upset. Also everyone processes events and stressors differently. They may have moved on differently and faster than me but that’s okay. I may just take more time to think and feel confident and happy with myself, before I can get over the person who brought me comfort. The other person, may have just not needed to think it over, or may have been more confident in themselves than I was. Therefore neither of us was in the wrong, but just process things differently.
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Anonymous on Jun 4, 2020
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Trying to cut off all ways of you being reminded of her - i.e. old pictures etc. Then, though it's hard, try to go about your daily life without reminding yourself of your ex. Slowly you will start to feel like you're moving on and your ex moving on won't bother you. Furthermore, being cooped up at home is one of the worse things you can do - so hanging out with your friends and trying to shut out venues to be reminded of your ex in the immediate future is the best. After you feel you are comfortable reflecting back on your relationship, you can try to find what went wrong and personally grow via improving on this.
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amiablePond7294 on Jul 2, 2020
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I don't think moving on should be necessarily viewed as a race. Everyone heals differently. For some, it can be quickly and swift. For others, it may take time to fully understand and begin the healing process. I would not say to focus on getting over your ex before they get over you. Instead, try to heal from the breakup first. You may find that helps much more than trying to move on quicker. The quicker you move on, the more unresolved emotions linger with you. I wish you the absolute best of luck emotionally healing from your breakup!
Profile: JonRamon
JonRamon on Jul 19, 2020
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The best way to get over your ex moving on is to find things you like doing and using your support system which could include your family and friends. Things happen for a reason and thinking positively can help ease the negative thoughts and enable you to think more clearly and not worry as much. Keep in mind that things will get better with time and that you will be available for the person who is really meant to be in your life. This is also a time to work on yourself and focus on the important things you think will make you a happy.
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Anonymous on Aug 13, 2020
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prepare yourself to accept it, dont hold grudge, respect others desires, keep things organized, dont search for who was wrong , feel the peace and beauty of life always, know that people are not a property, the right one will stay.prepare yourself to accept it, dont hold grudge, respect others desires, keep things organized, dont search for who was wrong , feel the peace and beauty of life always, know that people are not a property, the right one will stay.prepare yourself to accept it, dont hold grudge, respect others desires, keep things organized, dont search for who was wrong , feel the peace and beauty of life always, know that people are not a property, the right one will stay
Profile: doubtfi
doubtfi on Aug 20, 2020
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Block them out of your life, if possible. Delete their number, block their social media, try to further yourself from them as much as you can. This way, you won't have to worry about their new relationships and can focus on healing and finding yourself a new relationship! If you have access to all their social media, you'll feel inclined to check up on them, and this can be greatly detrimental to your own health and progress. By completely evading the traces of their relationship, block them and forget about that information as you focus on yourself! Good luck!
Profile: charmingdeer909
charmingdeer909 on Aug 22, 2020
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Realize that we are all différente and unique people who move at different paces. Honestly, the best way to get over your ex in general is to distance yourself from them so that you don’t have to “pour salt on a fresh wound”. When you start focusing on self-care and improving yourself as a person, you lose track of comparisons and it doesn’t matter that your ex “moved on quicker”. When you allow yourself that time to heal, you are able to think clearly from an outside perspective on your own situation, learning how to move on naturally. This is such an overused cliqué, but one day you’ll look back and laugh. Time truly does heal all wounds.
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Anonymous on Aug 29, 2020
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The best way to get over someone is to turn the focus inward. Focus on yourself, on growing personally. Do not compare your progress with your ex's. You are unique and it is not a competition. Your path and your life mission are different than anyone else. A great way to get over someone is finding out what interests you, hobbies you'd like to develop, spending time with friends and family. When you are paying attention to yourself, getting over someone gets easier. Also, do not put pressure on yourself, you are doing the best you can, and that it is more than enough. Take one step at the time.
Profile: Asher
Asher on Sep 9, 2020
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There is no easy way to get over a ex super quickly as it takes time to move on from someone so quickly. When I was broken up by my former partner I was so destroyed from it all and was unsure how to move from it as well. I just came to terms that it was going to take a lot of time to move on from it. The best tip that someone gave me was to focus on something you love. For example for me, I did more peer support stuff to grow as a person but also to move on as well.
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