What to do when you feel you are not good enough for someone?
Anonymous
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May 3, 2020
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Remind yourself of all the great qualities you know you have and tell yourself that someone will accept you for you. Because at the end of the day, you'd wanna be with someone who you know is good enough for you, not the other way around. And if anything try your best to either see what good enough is for someone and maybe achieving that, but really one does not have to change for someone unless change is for the good of yourself. Sometimes we may have bad habits we don't always notice, so we see the not so good of ourselves, but we can always change...our habits and actions are in our control.
Understandingempath
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May 7, 2020
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I find that the only person we should feel good enough for is ourselves. Everyone grows and learns at different paces. It is not the place of another to determine we as individuals are not good enough. They may say we are not good enough for them which is their choice to make. I still do not allow this to deter me from being the best me I can be on any given day. No matter what any one person says, somewhere in this very big planet is a person who will love you for being you. The fun part for me has always been finding those people. I hope it can be just as fun an experience for all who read this.
Anonymous
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May 9, 2020
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The first thing is to stop thinking that you're not good enough or you're never gonna be enough for someone or even yourself.
Stop feeding such negative things to your brain. Instead, input lovely things like: I'm worth it. I love myself. Because I'm so lovable, there are many people who love me.
If someone is making you feel like that, then you need to distance yourself from them; they're not a good influence on you and are stopping you from loving yourself and others.
Remember: think positive thoughts about yourself. Don't be your own worst critic; be your own best friend.
Anonymous
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May 16, 2020
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Be a little kinder to yourself. If someone is making you feel that way, as clique as it sounds, it's not you, it's them. You ARE good enough. End of. There is no questioning that. Some people just aren't as compatible with each other as you might like them to be. The fact that they are making you feel that way in the first place proves that whatever relationship you have with them isn't healthy. Trust me, wait for someone who makes you feel good enough because you will find them soon. A person worth your time doesn't make you question your worth. If you were meant to be together you wouldn't be asking this question because you would know that you are enough. Please, surround yourself with other people who make you happy. You deserve so much more than this.
caringHand989
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Jun 19, 2020
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It depends on the relationship with that person. If that person makes you feel unwanted and doesn't respect you, then it's better to leave that person. Sometimes it can be hard to step away, but if you take this problematic sept, your future self will thank you. Soon you'll find someone whom you feel good enough for, who will empower you, respect you, and love you just like you deserve to be treated. But first, know that you are entitled to be respected, loved, and honored. You don't need anyone else conformation to know your worth. Be proud of yourself and thank the creater who made you so beautiful.
Anonymous
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Jul 25, 2020
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'know your worth'. feeling of being not good enough for someone is not your problem anyway, because you don't need to please yourself to someone to like you or impress you. You live for your life not for them. always remember that your value doesn't based on someone's inability to see your worth. thinking that you are not good enough and that's bother you then move out and pretend to be okay. But instead of hating those people try to love them and you'll find peace of mind. remember, you are worth more than second thoughts and maybes..smile and be happy!
Anonymous
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Aug 2, 2020
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Start to note what makes you special about yourself (what you bring to the table). When we don't feel good enough for someone else, we tend to put them on a pedestal and put ourselves in a corner in light of who we think they are. There's nothing wrong with admiring someone else, being inspired by them or wanting to share a connection. It can take effort to put yourself at an equal stance as them. But it can feel like we're giving so much of our power away when we don't give ourselves the same recognition we give other people.
BehereForU
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Aug 6, 2020
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Remind myself of my strong points. People can be valued in so many different ways. Maybe the other person just likes you for who you are, you are very honest and sincere, you have a warm heart. It's not necessarily the good you think it is.
Try talk to the other person, chances are that you could find so many good things about you! If he/she cares about you, you will find it's nothing to worry about. If anyone let you feel down by saying something negative about you, remember it's not your problem and remind yourself you could do so much more.
AdorableSoul224
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Aug 8, 2020
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When I feel like I'm not good enough for someone, I try to remind myself of all my good qualities. I'm no better or worse than anyone else. The things I'm good at, I really REALLY excel at. The things I'm not great at, I'm willing to learn and try to do better at. I'm smart, at least in the things I'm interested in. I'm funny. I am worthy of sometimes time, attention, and love.
I. Am. Worthy.
I. Am. Worthy.
You. Are. Worthy.
YOU. ARE. WORTHY.
Sasha21caprihan
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Aug 22, 2020
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There is no such thing as "good enough". Someone who only sees your flaw is going to spot a flaw in you no matter how perfect of a version of yourself you become. Honestly, the perfection you are aiming at is in fact a facade you are willing to build around yourself for the sake of fitting into someone else's unrealistic standards. That is not who you are. You are beautiful and you deserved to be loved just the way you were carved. I'd say, show them your ugliest and most vulnerable self and have the courage to wait and see who stays...and trust you will be amazed to see how many admirers your original beautiful self had, who were just too carefully hidden in a crowd to be noticed. And once you accept yourself ,once you realize you are good enough for yourself, you'll be good enough for anybody.
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