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What to do when you feel you are not good enough for someone?

Profile: Anonymous
Anonymous on Mar 4, 2021
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Realize that it’s you that matters. Feeling like you’re not worth it is a bad feeling and one you should never have to have. You are one of a kind and no one can take that from you. You are brave and outstanding. Realizing your worth is the main goal. Don’t let someone else determine your worth through your eyes. Whoever that someone is might think that they aren’t good enough for you. It’s all in what you believe about yourself. You probably already know your worth and your beauty, it’s just hiding from you. And it’s very easy to get that part out of hiding if you I’m just look a little longer in the mirror and know your worth
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Profile: mvpeng
mvpeng on Mar 7, 2021
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It can be really tough to feel like you are not good enough for someone. This can come from many different sources including self-doubt and negative self-talk. Sometimes we are our own biggest inner critic, but we can gain greater self-confidence if we can improve our inner voice and practice self-love instead. Improving your communication with others including your parents, your partner, your children, or other family members can also help with these feelings. If you are open with the people around you, they can help you with your self-esteem and help shush that negative inner voice. It also can be helpful to avoid social media if you are struggling with these feelings, as these platforms can increase feelings of low self-worth. At the end of the day though, the best way to deal with these feelings is to take care of and be kind to yourself. 
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followup on Mar 9, 2021
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To feel you are not good enough for someone can provoke an overwhelming feeling of self-doubt, disappointment and loneliness. In your mind you are asking yourself "Where do I start with this?" or "How do I go by talking about this?." There can be reservations sharing what is in your heart with family, friends and a therapist but talking may be able to relieve you of those negative thoughts and feelings you have repressed in you. Its completely ok to share your vulnerabilities. Worried about your own anonymity? Please do not hesitate to communicate your thoughts and feelings with any listener on our site. There are also self-help guides (e.g. managing emotions, self-esteem) to refer to for further support and information. To realize your own self-worth, be kind to yourself and silence that inner critic. To be in a better place in a healthy relationship takes a willingness to work on your own self-confidence to help you realize the amazing qualities you possess as a person! At the end of the day we are all human beings none better than the other!
Profile: LovetoGod
LovetoGod on May 15, 2021
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In our lives, we met so many different people with different personalities. Everyone is not same. Everyone has different thinking and different perceptions. Sometimes, we meet people who don't like us. We can meet them in our real life as well as at social media or online sites. If we see in our real life, there are some people who don't like us especially for some things. Like we can take example of some of our friends or even our partner or parents. They don't hate us for sure. But sometimes they don't like us for some particular reasons or it can be anything behind it. And after knowing about it, we feel bad and it's obvious to feel bad. Due to this,we start doubting ourself, negative thoughts starts coming, our self confidence starts getting down. And it's natural to happen because sometimes we get to know this from them whom we love or trust. But, we should believe on ourselves. It's not possible that everyone whom we meet they will like us. So, we can't expect same from everyone. They have different thinking to understand you. But, you know yourself better than anyone else. And you know that, you are an amazing person. Moreover, everything has two aspects, Positive and negative. And, we should always try to focus on positive. And, the positive aspect is to think about those people who likes and trust you. There are lots of people like your family and friends who loves and care about you. Moreover, it's not just about people, it's about yourself and you should trust and love yourself most. No one is perfect. But we can improve day by day. So, we should try to become better person and focus on our self confidence. If we are right own our place, then we shouldn't be sad or feeling down if other people are trying to prove you wrong because you know yourself that you are right and good. And live for yourself, love yourself, believe yourself, care for yourself because you are really awesome ❤
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Not feeling good enough for someone is natural specially in the age of social media , which aids to comparison amongst different people , I understand and relate with how difficult it is to sit back and think why aren't we enough. Maybe it's a good question to ponder upon - "what's making me feel not good enough for this person ?" Or rather "what is exactly good enough ?" , I can assure you there's no concrete answer for what's good enough because we all humans are perceptive in nature and have our own judgements and assessments based on experiences which are personal to us , what may feel good to one wouldn't necessarily feel good to others , but so long we stay true to ourselves and have a healthy relationship with self , we can always start working on bettering ourselves, improving our confidence , esteem , self worth , relationships and interaction with others around us . Know that it is natural to feel pressured by the inner self critic , we all do feel the inner voice telling us we are not enough sometimes, and it's okay to take a pause and let that thought simply flow , the negative self talk and self doubt does get to us and make us question our worth or if we are good enough . The first step towards reducing the intensity with which this negative inner voice affects us ,is to accept that no one is perfect , accept ourselves as we are only with the intention to work on what we can improve in us for ourselves, not to please someone else . There will be someone who will always be dissatisfied by us in one or the other way , but as long as we know we are a work in progress, an incredibly amazing person who knows themselves through and through and is striving to work on themselves continually to be a better person each day , it is what matter at the end of the day , our self love and acceptance and the strive to improve for ourselves. I do feel healthy relationships and our self esteem are complementary to an extent , for instance when we are feeling good within ourselves we won't tolerate anything less of a good and healthy relationship with a person , unfortuantely when we do struggle to keep up with our self esteem , we may sometimes give others the authority to control our emotions and so there's a higher chance we pay more attention to their emotions and behaviour towards us than our own in general leading to some very closed off relationships with not much space and understanding , therefore to aid our self esteem, it is needed we align ourselves with people who accept us for us , encourage us to be a better us and support us when we need them , also a good communication and expression of feelings is also the basis of a healthy relationship, be it with our family members or with a partner, friend etc , super needed to be gentle with ourselves, introspect with ourselves, our needs and wants and communicate them frequently whenever required to . It is definitely not an easy road towards self acceptance and self love , but the good news is that you're capable of right about everything you wish for yourself , with some self belief and confidence and ofcourse a small step forward whenever you feel ready to take one . Good luck, I hope there are great things in store for you in your life journey ahead .
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Anonymous on Aug 24, 2021
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Talking from personal experience, when you feel you are not good enough for someone, it can cause a great deal of self esteem. You'll be increasingly critcizing yourself and having self-doubt when someone compliments you. Thus it can be tough, depressing and sad. It can lead to negative self-talk. However, think about it this way. You are you. So if you focus on yourself, by developing your amazing qualities and rectifying that not so good ones, you will begin to feel better. Therefore if someone, it can be parents, partner, extended family members, say you are not good enough, ignore their words. You know you are amazing person and you are worthy of you alone. At the end of the day, be yourself, be amazing and be kind to yourself.
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empatheticpie on Dec 20, 2022
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Sometimes we might feel like we’re not good enough for the people around us, whether that be our parents, children, our partner, or other family members in our lives. One reason we might feel this way, could be social media. Social media may negatively impact our self-worth by amplifying our inner critic and supporting negative self-talk and self-doubt. The good news is that it can also help. Through social media, you can find resources for therapy or other forms of self-improvement to become a better person than you already were. Using these resources will allow you to regain the self-confidence you deserve by helping you realize you are an amazing person with a voice that deserves to be heard for your whole life. You can also discover how to have healthy relationships by learning great things like better communication and other information on a healthy lifestyle and social life. At the end of the day, it’s important to remember that we are all human beings, and we are all capable of improvement with the right resources.
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Heavenlyhorizons on Jan 20, 2023
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Many things might lead us to feel like we are not good enough for someone. This can stem from our relations with our parents, partners and, in general, with each other as human beings. It is important to communicate and see if these thoughts are founded in the truth or are negative self-talk. It is essential to acknowledge our thoughts but know at the end of the day, they are not always indicators of the facts. It is also vital to pour self-love and remember that as long as you are good enough for yourself, that’s all that matters. No one cannot pour from an empty cup. There is no actual definition of good enough. Therapy might do great things to help you sort through this. Cognitive Behavioural Therapy might help you sort through these thoughts, and in a healthy relationship, you do not have to feel good enough for someone; you are.
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Raspberrycheesecake on Mar 10, 2023
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Question: What to do when you feel you are not good enough for someone? Firstly, I want to thank you for reaching out and asking this question. It's hard to feel self-love and have self-confidence. We all listen to the small voice that is communicating with us in our mind which usually gives us negative self-talk and fills us with self-doubt. We can be our own worse inner critic, which can give us low self-esteem. I can assure you that you are enough. One good tip I'd suggest is using social media and finding things that made you feel happy and make you feel like an amazing person that you are. The first step is to realise that you are good enough for someone, the best way to do this is surround yourself with your friends and family members or any healthy relationships that you have because this will help you with your relationship with yourself. At the end of the day, you are valued and more than enough, we all just need o learn our self-worth and there is no one way about doing this, we are all different. You are worth it and you always will be - you are now and forevermore enough ❤️
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FeureVox on Mar 23, 2024
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Feeling not good enough for someone, whether parents, partners, or peers, often stems from self-doubt and negative self-talk influenced by social media and comparisons. 1) The first step towards overcoming these feelings is recognizing your self-worth by ignoring others' opinions. 2) Practicing self-love and addressing the inner critic can boost self-esteem and self-confidence. 3) Open communication with family members or a partner can clarify misunderstandings and reinforce your value in these relationships. 4) Therapy is a valuable tool for unpacking these feelings, understanding their actual reasons, and developing strategies to counteract them. Remember, you're a fantastic person deserving of healthy relationships. You can strengthen your sense of worth by self-acceptance and pursuing personal growth.
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