What to do when you feel you are not good enough for someone?

Many people hope to get great things from healthy relationships; however, due to problems with their self-esteem brought on by negative self-talk, poor communication with the ones they love, or too much time spent on social media, they may feel that they are not good enough for someone. This someone could be their parent, partner, or any other family member. It is important to silence the inner critic, reduce your self-doubt and find your self-love. The first step is to find the real reason why this is happening to you. This can be done by seeking out therapy. This can be done professionally or just by talking to someone to regain your self-confidence and become a better person. No matter who you are, you need to realize that you are amazing and that you have a voice that can be used to create your own good news that can be shared with everyone. At the end of the day, if you understand your own worth, you will understand that you are good enough for anyone.

First figure out if you're feeling this way because of something that is happening internally, or because of something someone else did or said. I like ask myself deep down where is this feeling of "not good enough" coming from and who ultimately determines when I am good enough? The answer is I (you) do. In taking an honest inventory, ask yourself, "Are you are you trying to change yourself to bend to become someone else's version of who they think you should be?" Is their version of you in alignment with who you want to be? If so what are you willing to change so that you will feel good enough for yourself? If the other person's version of you doesn't align with your own morals and beliefs, then perhaps it's time to reevaluate the amount of weight you give to that person's judgement.

I think a lot of people have that question about themselves, and I've questioned that before, as well. It's really just some insecurities that people have with themselves. The first thing you should do is to accept who you are and take a step back. Think about your relationships with people you know and think about if THEY are good enough for YOU. Because if they make you feel this way, then you shouldn't really have a relationship with that person. A good friend and person would make you feel good about yourself, not the other way around. You are good enough, and I hope that you accept who you are.

I have personally gone through this so I can tell you from the bottom of heart that the only thing you can do is focus on yourself and learn to accept what happened to make you feel like this. If you don't accept the reality of the situation, you cannot heal from it and it might even cause a chain reaction of bad things that lead to worsening mental health. You need to take some time for yourself, accept what happened to make you feel like this, and realise that it is the person who made you feel like you aren't good enough that isn't good enough for you because you clearly cared about this person and they didn't appriciate that. It's their loss. And you are good enough. Tell yourself everyday until you start to believe it. Take care of yourself :)

We all go down this path sometimes, don't we? Ashamed of ourselves, the fear of abandonment that the person will leave us because we are not good enough for them. And then we try to fix these things by changing our behaviours and patterns in a very unhealthy way. And this only causes self-sabotage and we end up losing so many traits and things about us that we used to love. It is important to know that love and validation is crucial in any kind of a relationship but overthinking about what we aren't/can't do, we can instead think and try to do the things that we can do to make the person feel loved, better and in turn us feeling special and cared for. It is twisted, I know. But in the end, we all learn from our experiences.

When one acquires these feels, they must think as to WHY they are feeling this way. There is always a root to one's thought process and why they feel one way or another. A trigger, what was once said to them by those who they feel they are not worthy of. Speak to this person. Ask them why they have treated you in such a way to grasp a better understanding of why they have made you feel less than. Maybe write a letter stating your feelings and have then respond in person or in writing a letter back to you. It's hard to understand the feelings and thoughts that we have sometimes when we do not know where they are stemming from. It's always best to look deep inside first, and then reach out to those who have made you feel this way.

I'm sorry to hear that you are feeling like you are not good enough right now 😔. Negative self-talk and self-doubt are common struggles among nearly everyone. Please know that you are SO not alone in feeling this way. It is easy to see others in our lives or on social media and their seemingly perfect lives and to judge ourselves harshly for not measuring up. Our self-esteem and self-worth is shattered when we do this, and the comparisons are not even fair when we really think about it. Even looking at our partners or children, our family members or close friends - do we really know everything about them? There are so many struggles that we don't see, even in those we are closest with. People may be struggling at home, at work, or in their relationships. They may have insecurities, trauma, or other invisible mental battles we so often face alone in the hidden places of our minds. We are all human. Every one of us. And being human comes with imperfection. But it also comes with inherent value. You are an amazing person and you have value to this world. Sure, you are imperfect. You struggle. You doubt yourself and fall into the comparison trap. So do I. So do all of us, I think. But having imperfections doesn't make you less than anyone else. It doesn't make you less valuable or less worthy… or less anything. In fact, I'd be willing to bet that this person that you feel is better than you has insecurities of his or her own. So my answer to your question - what should I do if I am not good enough for someone? My answer for you - and for all of us is this: realize that you are. You are good enough. Because it's the truth. 💜💜💜

It is interesting to note that the term “feel” is used in the question asked, that is to say that something is perceived not through rational means, but through feelings. Feelings are like automatic programs that are being built by lived experiences, traumas and the learning we have in our growth where what is accepted in our environment becomes validated and what is not accepted we try to delete from our attitudes. The problem is that we have a way of being because we are unique beings, and each individual understands the same situation in different ways. I see the way out of this in what we can call self-acceptance, which would be the ability to accept yourself and embrace all that you are. Thoughts, emotions, speeches, actions, personality traits, strengths and weaknesses The question will certainly arise, “And how to develop this skill? “Here are some tips: First, it would be to reflect on your difficulty in accepting yourself, to ask yourself what prevents you from accepting yourself without restrictions? Is your self perception negative? Is that what someone said a long time ago? It is important to take time for this reflection and write down what is perceived. Another possibility would be to identify your personality traits, what we call self-knowledge, there is also the tip of recording not only the negative points, but what you are good at, skillful and seen as a good, resume the previous reflection exercise, but this time, focus on identifying your personality traits. If you can't think of many, ask people you trust for help. The last step I can cite would be to raise your self-esteem, with this new knowledge about yourself in hand, make a third list only with positive personality traits and achievements, forget about comparisons with other people and see daily everything that benefits you. environment in which he lives even without getting approval about it. Don't forget, be kind and complacent with yourself, seek support whenever you need it, our chats are a great option and remember that we are passengers in life and we are constantly learning.

One can feel guilty about not being good for someone like parents, partner or friends. This makes one lose self-esteem and self-worth. The good news is that the best solution to this problem is through self-love. Spending some quality time with oneself and working on improving is the first step to curb the inner critic, self-doubt and negative self-talk. One must remind themself that they are amazing. This will boost their self-confidence and improve their sense of self. They will have better and healthier relationships and will look forward to great things. At the end of the day it's the self that is absolute constant.

Occasionally we would have self-doubt or negative self-talk that we are not good enough for someone such as our family, friends or relatives. This could feel stressful and we may not know what to do. Here are some ways which may help. 1. Whenever we realise that our inner critics say that we are not good enough, we can label it as a thought. A thought may or may not be real. 2. Investigate. We should reflect upon the reasons why we think we are not good enough. List down the areas we are good enough and then the areas we are not good enough. 3. See if it is really true that our self-critic is real by going through the list. 4. If we find out that we actually have a greater number of good than bad, then we should come to the conclusion that our self-critic is wrong. 5. If instead, we find that there are areas which we are lacking, we can plan on how to improve it through small steps. All in all, stay positive and optimistic! View challenges as a positive thing where they inform us that we can potentially grow.