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What to do when you feel you are not good enough for someone?

Profile: Mel
Mel on Jul 25, 2021
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It's for sure reasonable to feel like you're not good enough for someone. We're usually out toughest critics when it comes to our own value, doubting our self-worth and lacking self-esteem. This doesn't mean you're really not enough for them - as this is mostly negative self-talk. It's important to work on your self-confidence in order to have a good relationship with strong communication whether this is with your partner, parent or a family member. A good first step is to gather enough information on what they expect from you and if you're really needing to work on something. We're all human beings after and are allowed to make mistakes, learn from them and be a better person! Good luck!
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Profile: Cazzy8752
Cazzy8752 on Jul 26, 2021
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I understand and can relate to how your feeling about not being good enough for someone. So often when we are going through our own personal battles, they can overwhelm us and make us feel that we are no longer good enough for someone. From your question I'm wondering if this may be the situation for you? When we feel like this it is important to discuss how you are feeling with the other person as opening up and communication is key to all relationships. I think the first best step to take is to let the other person know how you are feeling, open up with your what is going on with your thoughts and emotions so they can help you because it is difficult to manage this alone.
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Anonymous on Aug 3, 2021
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Well to be honest there's nothing called as good enough for someone as because I think everyone is good it's the situation that makes the person worst. When I feel like that way the only thing I do is make sure the person knows that I am with him or her whenever they need me and give some space to fill the awkwardness. Make sure the other person knows about your feelings and if they doesn't want to they take a step back and let them live their live as because we can't force someone to stay with us. The thing is we can't really hold someone cuz the tighter we hold them the more they want to slip away so the least we can do is make sure the person knows that no matter what the odds are you will always be there for them.
Profile: Damonchandio
Damonchandio on Aug 7, 2021
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There are 7 billion people in this world. You think you might be good for someone but they might not think the same. because we find our reflection in other people. we find love and empathy. we find a spark when we are looking for someone. and that feeling has to be mutual in order to build a deeper mental and physical connection. You will be good for someone else. you just have to realize that. one day you will find a perfect person who is capable of loving you. so you just have to sit tight and wait for the right person
Profile: amomtessa
amomtessa on Aug 10, 2021
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I can completely understand how hard and painful it must be to feel like you are not good enough for someone, be it your parents, partner, etc. With the increasing use of social media, our self-esteem has been dramatically affected and we somehow judge ourselves and question our self-worth. It definitely brings a lot of negative feelings. We all have this inner critic who always creates a sense of self-doubt. As a result of that, we engage in negative self-talk and become harsh on ourselves. This is the real reason for having such a feeling. We all are human beings and we experience such moments in our lives. But there is a good news. All you have to do is take the first step towards the path of self-growth, i.e. to be a better person. That is the right thing and the best way to deal with this unpleasant feeling, If this feeling is hampering your relationships with your family members, children, partner, etc. and you find it difficult to have a good time with them, you can definitely approach a professional and go for therapy. It can provide you with accurate information and can aid you in enhancing some basic skills such as effective communication. Remember one thing. You are an amazing person and you have your whole life waiting for you to create beautiful moments with your loved ones. You just have to find your inner voice which can help you in building your self-confidence. A healthy relationship takes a two-way street. So self-love is necessary to feel confident because at the end of the day, you are with your true self. Good luck to you.
Profile: ComfortZone03
ComfortZone03 on Sep 12, 2021
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Figure out whether they are good enough for you. If the relationship between you is mutual, you would not be questioning whether you are good enough. If it is equal and not a one sided relationship, you will know, and they will make it clear to you that you are more than good enough for them, this applies to relationships , friendships etc. You shouodnt question if you are good enough for them but in fact , if they’re good enough for you. Questioning this, can make you unhappy and you should always put your happiness first!
Profile: Anonymous
Anonymous on Sep 26, 2021
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It’s natural to feel like you’re not good enough for someone, and I’m sure many others can relate or have gone through this at some point in their life. I would suggest first taking a step back to see if you can identify the root problem. In a sense, what’s causing you to feel this way? Did something change recently causing your self-doubt to kick in? Is there some negative self-talk going on that’s unaddressed? Next, reach out. This could mean talking to a trusted friend or counsellor or even therapist. There’s no shame in seeking reassurance. Self-love is something that’s often easier said than done, but it’s definitely important. As cliche as this may sound, but our inner critic is often our worst critic. Last but certainly not least, challenge yourself to get out of your comfort zone! This would help you build your overall self-confidence and address some of the issues that arise from self-doubt.
Profile: NinaBee
NinaBee on Nov 5, 2021
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Why do you feel you are not good enough for them? Analyze that, then write out all the reasons. Which of those reasons do you control? What can you do to make yourself good enough, or make yourself FEEL good enough for them? What can't you control? You can only hope they overlook that and love you for who you are, especially as you are becoming the best version of yourself! At the end of the day, when you like someone, you overlook their flaws. Ideally, they'll give you the same benefit of the doubt. Regardless, you can always find things to change or improve yourself as you wish!
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SCRNSWCULA on Nov 19, 2021
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If you ever feel that you are not good enough for someone, recognize that you ARE enough. Sometimes in a relationship, two people just are not the right fit. maybe take a step back and try to figure out why you feel this way. Is it low self-esteem? Anxiety? Depression? Have you been put down in the past? While it may feel like the end of the world and challenging to feel this way, you have the power to change it. With knowledge, support from others, and consistency you can change your way of thinking and build your confidence.
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Anonymous on Dec 23, 2021
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The good news is that this is a very common experience for people. The bad news is that it’s uncommon to know how to deal with these feelings. Here are some self-help techniques on how to improve your self-esteem: The first way of improving your self esteem is talking about yourself in a positive manner. Avoid using exaggerated language and don't put yourself down when speaking about yourself or comparing yourself to others. If you have no one else around looking in the mirror when speaking to yourself, it's time to get self-compassionate. Treating yourself with self-care can also help boost self-esteem. The second way of improving self esteem is by seeing the big picture. Self-esteem is often affected by how well you are doing in life compared to others - this is called social comparison. This has been explained as a self-defeating strategy because self-esteem is a self-evaluative process that varies from person to person. If you compare yourself with others you will always come up short, which can make you feel worse. This doesn't mean no comparisons should be made at all though since sometimes it's useful to know how well you are doing in comparison to others - just don't make self-esteem decisions based on self-evaluations. The third way of improving self-esteem is understanding that perfectionism can be a killer. Perfectionism is not always bad but it often leads to negative consequences if it is really high. Perfectionism is often associated with high levels of anxiety and depression as well. So instead of perfect try 'good enough'. The fourth way of improving self-esteem is learning to say no. Saying yes when you mean no can create a lot of inner conflict and guilt. Learning how to say no is a great way of increasing self-esteem because it helps you feel more in control and confident about yourself. Remember that you are not alone when it comes to not feeling good enough. The way you talk about yourself to yourself, your willingness to see the bigger picture, choosing to be ‘good enough’ vs. perfect, and learning to say no are starting points to improving how you feel about yourself.
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