What to do if a guy cheats on his girlfriend with you?
StormyAngles18
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Jun 5, 2016
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Be the bigger person and tell the girlfriend what is going on. It is not a good idea to play along and not tell the girlfriend. You have to be able to see it from both sides of the situation. The girlfriend has a right to know and it will prevent him from hurting either one of you again or causing an unneeded argument between you and her.
Anonymous
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Apr 3, 2018
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It depends if you feel something for him, or if you just feel bad for his partner. If you knew and did it regardless, you should keep it to yourself. If he promised to be with you or told you he would leave his partner for you and hasn't done it, then you can either move on or tell his partner. Just be aware that some partners will not want to believe things, so they might accuse you or intend to harm you in some way. My advice beyond everything is to just move on, it's the best thing you can do.
Anonymous
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Apr 11, 2018
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Depends on what you want to do. Would you like to tell her? If so, how would you like to tell her? I think you should think through what you would like to do
Anonymous
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Apr 27, 2018
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I cant say that I know what would be right here.
The thinking behind what you do now might help. You should think about some of the behaviors and how'd you'd like to approach it.
To reiterate, he cheated on somebody which is wrong for them but also shows that he is on a path where you might enable him to do further bad things. They may seem happy but he is fundamentally troubled which will put their relationship in BAD trouble.
So I suppose the answer is what will you be able to do? Whether it is, to tell the truth, to hurt the sensitivities and relationships of others, or to withhold.
It all depends on what you'd prefer for their lives.
MorganConstance
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May 4, 2018
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A guy actually did cheat on his girlfriend with me. I have no excuse for what happened because I knew that he had a girlfriend back then. It was messy and it messed up a lot of friendships. My advice is that when you find yourself in this situation, take a moment to think it through. Is it really worth the break and mess? I won't judge but a lot of people out there can and maybe will. But it's always going to be your choice in the end.
Anonymous
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Nov 25, 2018
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Personally, if I discovered a guy was cheating on his girlfriend with me, I'd first ask him to do his best to make amends with her, before ending things. I'd also reach out to his girlfriend to apologise and clear up any confusion, and let her decide how far she'd want to go meeting up- whether becoming friends is something she'd want to do or if a simple text conversation would be enough. I'd also just try to be more sure in the future about the people I choose to date and what their relationship status is before I get into a relationship with them.
Lizsen
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Mar 30, 2019
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I would say that depends on whether or not the guy was honest about the girlfriend in the beginning. Either way, it's important to start by owning it and accepting that it happened, but also understanding that cheating shouldn't be justified. There are multiple people's feelings at stake and ultimately the goal is to have respect, compassionate and love for not only ourselves, but for other people as well. Self love and self worth are important and should be a part of the building blocks for a healthy relationship. If you have developed feelings for someone who has a girlfriend, I understand it can be very hard to switch those feelings off, but knowing that you deserve someone who will be committed to you and only you, should make it much easier to not settle for someone who is already in a relationship. Happiness is your birthright, and knowing your worth could potentially bring you so much happiness and joy. 💙
Anonymous
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May 4, 2019
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If a guy or anyone cheats on someone with you and you knew that he had a girlfriend, #one, reflect on your actions. Then tell the girl what happened. She will be appreciative of you telling her because you would never want to be in that situation, so neither would she. Also probably follow up with the guy and ask him what he was thinking or something of the sort so that way he too will reflect on his actions. The main thing is it’s not only his fault, it’s yours too. You both took the action so it’s both your responsibilities.
enchantingSky79
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Jan 17, 2020
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You never see that guy again, it’s over! He’s a cheater and you deserve better, you are nobody’s side chick. You block his number and focus on dating single people or taking a break from dating for a while.
It is not fair on you and neither on his girlfriend to continue this. Whether to tell her, that’s up to you but it might cause drama.
You don’t need a guy who cheats, if he cheated on her, he will cheat on you if he dumps her for you.
It’s about self esteem and doing what is better for yourself no matter how much you love him.
Anonymous
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Mar 7, 2020
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I believe that a relationship is between the people who are within that relationship. Therefore, I believe only these people are responsible for staying faithful towards one another. If a guy cheated on someone with me, I would try to not take that personally because the arrangement between the two of US does not involve being faithful. However, I do not want to be part of a lie or trouble within someone else’s life, which is why I would try to stay away from someone who has trouble staying faithful and honest with their loved ones. To me that is an indicator that that guy does not appreciate the people who are close to him enough. I don’t wish to be part of such a circle
Anonymous
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Mar 22, 2020
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In the first place, I won't allow this to happen if I knew he already has a girlfriend. If I didn't know and knew later, I would definitely dump him and apologize for his girlfriend. Because there is a chance of him cheating at me too. I just won't let this happen again. I don't know if I would feel as guilty as I should be if he was innocent. Some things in life cannot be forgotten especially breaking someone's heart is never OK. I would also let him know that what he did is wrong. I hope this is a helpful answer.
Anonymous
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Mar 28, 2020
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If you have feelings for him remember, If he cheats on her he'll cheat on you, leave it alone and don't do it again so you won't get hurt by him, if you know his girlfriend tell her so she can leave him and won't get hurt again, its not fair to her. So my suggestion would be to tell her even tho it will be hard to tell her and might lose his friendship,either way who would want a friendship with some one who think its okay to cheat on their partner. Think about It :).
Anonymous
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Apr 9, 2020
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You’re worried about what to do if a guy who already has a girlfriend cheats with you. Am I correct? If I was in a similar experience, what advice would you give to me? What are some different ways you feel you could approach this? In what way would each impact your life?
I can understand that this would be a sensitive topic. How do you feel about everything? How is this impacting you? From your standpoint what do you think would be the best choice that would yield the best outcome in this situation? How do you feel about this situation?
Anonymous
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Apr 22, 2020
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I would ask the guy the reason why did he do it and why me. I want to ask if he thinks cheating on the person he had committed to was the right choice and will immediately ask him to confess to his girlfriend for the choice he did and if he does not I would Immediately contact his girlfriend and inform her and tell her and help her in anyway as possible and be clear and precise that I never wanted to ruin their relationship and it was never planned in any sort of way she might've think.
Anonymous
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May 8, 2020
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I leave him alone right away when I found it out. If his gf finds out, I'd tell her I am genuinely sorry for what happened, that it was unintentional from my end. However, I would not hold this responsibility with me as he is the one to blame.
Most likely I would leave them alone and follow my path, trying to find an honest man to love and to be loved without competing with other women as I hate rivality between women. He is just not worthy and he will never be, that's what I would have done in this case.
FriendlyEagle316
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Jun 7, 2020
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Be the bigger person and leave the secret relationship because if that happened to you would you like it. Treat other the way you want to be treated. That is the simple golden rule that we all were taught when we were just a little kid. Never forget the basic training you were taught it will help you along the way. Use this saying all the time when you come across this sit situation. Once you remember this saying you will never cheat in your life again because these words will be marinated in your brain when you cheat again.
Anonymous
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Jun 11, 2020
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First of all think that did you know that he had a girlfriend? If not then it’s definitely not your fault! You found each other attractive and you’ll continued. Also even if you knew he was in a relationship its majorly his fault because he knew the fact that he would be cheating and hurting his girlfriend but still continued. If he cheated on her girlfriend then probably things werent good between them anyway. If in any way you feel like you owe it to his girlfriend and need to tell him ; go ahead. She deserves to know be calm with your words and relax
Anonymous
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Jul 23, 2020
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There is really no right answer. It really depends, there are many issues involved. But one thing to consider is would you be willing to continue the relationship with somebody who could lie? Especially to the person that they are dating. Would you be able to trust them afterwards? But some things to consider are - did you know that he was in a relationship before something happened between you? If you didn't - did the person lie or deceive you? It is definitely no a sign of a healthy relationship. If you knew then you should consider your own moral grounds, and think about why you did it.
Anonymous
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Jul 26, 2020
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I personally think there are two things that you could do depending on what kind of a person you are. If you're feeling guilty because of what happened you could always talk to him about it or straight up talk to his girlfriend and tell her what had happened. There is the other option as well, you could refrain from saying anything to her and just go on with your life. It's up to you to decide what to do. It also depends if you know the person well or not - or if you're very close to him or not.
elgor6744
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Jul 30, 2020
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If a guy cheats on his girlfriend with you, understand that it was his fault instead of yours. If you had no idea he had a girlfriend, try to reach out to her and tell her the full story. Chances are she won't blame you, but will have a conversation with her boyfriend that cheated. Be there for the girlfriend and defend her. Don't reach out to the boyfriend and if he tries to reach out to you, simply ignore or block him. He doesn't deserve you or his girlfriend he cheated on. That was his choice and now he must face the consequences. Best of luck!
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