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What is a good way to get your mind off of the breakup when everything around you reminds you of the person you lost?

Profile: lilcupotea2
lilcupotea2 on Oct 26, 2015
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Try starting out by exploring yourself and what you love. Start trying new things and learn to love yourself so you don't have to depend on others to give you the love you deserve. Self love is very important.
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Anonymous on Feb 12, 2019
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Try to retransform your life by doing everything different then what you did with your ex. Because the more you do the same thing that you and your ex did the more it is going to remind you of your friend. It is normal in a break up to think about your ex and the things that you miss from your friend. However, life goes on and you have to begin to try new things and create new enjoyments that is outside of what you used to do with your ex. Whatever, you do don't quit on yourself and refuse to stop living because of your past relationship. I wish you nothing but the best as you continue to move forward with your life.
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kindForever36 on Oct 26, 2015
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Definitely keep yourself busy and surround yourself with all the things that make you happy ! Also, try writing how you feel. Although it may bring you back to the sad situation but it will only you to vent out your feelings when you feel as though you can not talk to anyone else.
Profile: FeatherIce25
FeatherIce25 on Apr 6, 2015
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Delete contact, pictures , messages. Share your feelings. Go out with friends.Get a new hobby . Read
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Anonymous on Jul 14, 2015
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Be honest.. Straight and upfront about it.. "I don't want you to talk about him or her... In my presence.. For a little while." And this is out of respect for YOU! I if that doesn't really work out Take a break. Visit your lil'ol grandma.. :) it's a fresh start and a needed distraction. Because let's face it, reality is, you can't avoid every single person you've ever known. So maybe it's time you take time off for yourself for a little while.. Get a fresh perspective on things and people.. Then come back.. And tackle the issues at hand.
Profile: Greatlistener87
Greatlistener87 on Apr 26, 2016
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The idea is to accept where u are now and let go of the past. Create new memories of the places that reminds u of the lost. Memories can turn into good ones if you put a little effort to make it that way.
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Anonymous on Jun 14, 2016
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You have to just eat some good food. You should also take yourself on a date. Forget about the worlds problems and focus on yourself.
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Philiptowsey1976 on Nov 7, 2017
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Spend time with some friends and family . Focus on u, new hobbies . Working out at the gym or going for walks
Profile: Rabbit2202
Rabbit2202 on Mar 30, 2020
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It may seem counter intuitive, but giving yourself a few times or even once a day for x amount of minutes to think and grieve about your ex can help your brain stop running on the rumination wheel. You can set up a scheduled time for your grieving, and then set a timer for, lets say, 5 minutes. After the timer ends, you stop actively thinking/grieving, and move on to activities that stimulate your mind. Some people enjoy doing things that require repetitive motions, like knitting, carving, doing dot work/hatching art. Anything that keeps your hands busy will eventually keep your mind busy, as it is focused on keeping your hands moving rather than thoughts in your head. Are there any songs/places/foods/etc that remind you of them and you have an intense well of heartbreak if you heard/taste/see? Reclaim those things for yourself. Yes, once they were a special thing for both of you, but it won't always be. Nothing will ever be always for "the two of you" because "the two of you" may not last. But you what does? You do. You last, and it is certain. Slowly inch your way towards these once shared items, and start finding things about them that make YOU happy, and only you. This is somewhat similar to exposure therapy; the more you open yourself to something that makes you feel uncomfortable, over time, that will fade, and you will feel neutral about it. Maybe you'll find joy experiencing these alone! And that is one of the positives of break ups. You'll find new emotions to feel and explore within things you've "lost". It will be a long road ahead, but time will heal you. Keep busy, explore on your own! Sending good wishes to you.
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Anonymous on Dec 22, 2015
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Try new things you maybe didn't do with your ex, something only for yourself. Maybe you find good music you like, spend time with friends who will distract you too! It takes time to get over it, and it does hurt to get reminded of the person you lost. But it will all get better with time.
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