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what does it mean when he says he doesn't want to break up but he is not sure if he loves you anymore?

Profile: HappyEyes
HappyEyes on May 24, 2015
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His confusions should not be a problem of yours and if he's not sure if he loves you anymore, why stay? He doesn't want to break up with you mostly because he got used to you. Think of yourself first
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Profile: Anonymous
Anonymous on Sep 14, 2016
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There can be a lot of different reasons why he said such thing. He's most likely feeling confused, just like you are, a relationship requires hard work and dedication, sometimes it becomes quite difficult to manage, depending on the type of relationship shared, it's duration, intimacy and several other factors playing a role on both you, sometimes being in a relationship can become some sort of a routine, and as consequence the person turns into a habit, we tend to get too attached to our partners and develop a dependency instead of a viable love connection. My point is, he might be having second thoughts concerning his feelings and the relationship in general, but his attachment to you probably keeps him from making a decision, he fears the possibility of regretting his choices, and not being able to get you back later on. Have some patience and try to be understanding of the situation, avoid conflict and frustration as it won't be beneficial for you. Maybe this is the right moment to invest more time in the relationship, trying to reconnect with each other, remember why there is a relationship in first place.
Profile: Speakfromheart
Speakfromheart on Jan 19, 2016
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Give him space. Let him think. Maybe he's going through a rough phase and does not want you to involve you in it. Whatever his problem is, you don't hurt yourself in this. Hope that helps.☺
Profile: Kindness101
Kindness101 on Apr 16, 2015
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I would rather break up then. How can you be with someone in a relationship, but they don't love you?
Profile: Anonymous
Anonymous on Jan 26, 2016
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Maybe he is thinking if truly thinks your the one. Some men and woman to, can be nervous to know if they are making the right choice by being with this person. He may just be wondering if he is truly making the right decision. (Some people get scares if they don't know immediately)
Profile: Anonymous
Anonymous on Mar 17, 2015
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Granted all situations, relationships and people are different. I believe its fair to say there is something going on within the relationship that isn't being communicated. Attempting to figure out what it is without communication will prove to be exhausting and futile. I believe that if he says he is not sure that he loves you but does not want to separate, means that there is something that is pushing him away from you. Whether it be a behavior or behaviors of yours. I believe that when you meet someone romantically there are things that you fall in love with about a person, those small things about someones personality, habits, smile, or even their appearance. Whatever it may have been that you fell in love with is always there. I believe with time you get to know more about someone, including all the stuff you didn't fall in love with. What I am getting at is maybe there is something about yourself he doesn't see working out in the long run. This could also mean there is another reason as to what is making him think or feel that he is in love or loves you. There is no sure way of knowing what he means when he says that without communicating. But to me it means that there is something in the relationship that is causing him to think or feel the way he is.
Profile: olimaar
olimaar on Oct 27, 2015
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He's having second thoughts. Try to give him time to himself more to think. He needs to live himself and understand what it's like without you.
Profile: Anonymous
Anonymous on Mar 28, 2016
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It could just mean that he doesn't want to take things too fast, but he still wants to be with you.
Profile: PashT007
PashT007 on Apr 14, 2015
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This sounds like a person that is confused or either want their cake and ice cream too. Be careful not to take yourself down an emotional roller coaster.
Profile: Anonymous
Anonymous on May 28, 2017
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He is confused. The best thing that you could do is give him time and support. he obviously cares about you but he is just unsure how to proceed at them moment. Be supportive and give him time and he will come around. He is just confused and needs to sort out how he is feeling. Boys have this problem all the time, they dont know how to be in touch with their feelings
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