What do I do if I love 2 people at once?
Anonymous
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May 17, 2020
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This is a hard one, but I've been through this situation. I'm basically polyamorous, so it's been a problem for me. Either way here goes. You need to evaluate what you think of both people. Flesh your feelings out, in detail. Try to imagine a relationship with both of them, and try to see which one makes you happier, but if I'm being honest. Just take a break, man. Such complications lead to everyone getting hurt. So, it really depends on the condition and situation. You also need to know your stand about relationships and the like. That's all I have to say. Hope this was helpful.
Anonymous
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Aug 16, 2020
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This s a complicated question and it hugely depends on your situation. If you are currently with someone you love but also feel love for someone else many people would consider polyamory (the relationship including multiple people), an open relationship, or just telling your partner about your feelings for someone else and see how they react and have you both figure out this problem. But if you're feeling love for two people who are both not in a relationship with you it's good to explore both options. Get to know them both closer and see who you connect with better.
Anonymous
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Aug 26, 2020
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When it comes to love, love is a challenge. And to quote Pat Benatar, "love is a battlefield"
That said, the feelings you carry for two people at once are perfectly valid. Do you love them both in the same way? Or is one just a friend and the other a potential partner? Or are they both in the same boat with regards to how you feel?
I think it's important to go ahead and sit down and perhaps write out how you feel about both people and why. To help yourself clarify further what it is that you think or perhaps feel about these people in question.
And then, the other piece of the puzzle is how do they feel about you? Having this convo with yourself and these folks will help you get a course of decision
Rebekah
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Nov 17, 2020
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Many, many people have been in this position (both men and women) - and it's a hard one! Through my own personal experience, I know exactly how tough it can be to love 2 different people. Some relationship experts argue that it's impossible to love 2 separate people; I disagree. It isn't a proven fact yet! While I'm not a relationship coach (it could be a good idea to see one, though!), I can tell you that having 2 (or more than 1, respectively) love interests is completely normal and valid. There is a difference between true love and romantic love, but it's really difficult to differentiate between them, and that's totally okay. There's no immediate need to make a choice (though there is a chance that you'll need to make one at some point, so it may be a good idea to prepare yourself for that). There are many different ways to assess this. Try to ask yourself if there's someone you love more than the other. Imagine yourself in a fully committed relationship with both of them - which looks better, feels better? You could even ask your family members for their opinion or support (though please be wary, they may be biased). Try to think, with both your heart and with your brain. Spend a relatively long time really thinking in-depth about who you love the most and who would offer you the most amount of happiness. Maybe you could chat with both of them to see who you connect with more. Don't spend too much time worrying about it, though, as it may be bad for your health! If you're in a current relationship with one of the two you're in love with, it may be a good idea to let the person know. If you're not in a relationship with one of them but are dating someone else, it may be a good idea to talk with them about your feelings, too. There is no best thing to do in this situation - all we can do is try our best! There's someone out in the world for everyone - maybe one of the people you're in love with them is that someone, or maybe a new person will come along at some point. We cannot tell the future, and don't know what it has in store for us.
Sunisshiningandsoareyou
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Feb 4, 2021
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It Is one tough situation to be in, when it feels like we are in love with two people at once, but what makes you think you are ? Do you feel the same kind of attraction for both of them ? Do you feel the same level of longing for both? When you try to picture your future, do you seee both of them in it? Or is there one of them that really calms your heart more? That makes you feel more secure,more in love with yourself and more likely to be your future ? How do you feel about spending time with both of ,and then trying to assess on the pros and cons, trying to figure out ,who makes you feel in love more. While it's possible to like more than one person at once, I think it's not really possible to fall in love with two, either of them has to stand out more and secure your love in a way, that you feel confident about it too . Give yourself enough time and space to figure out your feelings . It will be difficult and may take some time, but you will get through .
Anonymous
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Jun 15, 2016
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Follow my heart, if I love them both at the same time I would go for someone who is suitable for me and understand the reason why I love that person.
Anonymous
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Jun 17, 2016
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You cannot ride in 2 boats..you need to make a decision and not only be straight with ur feelings but also be honest to both.
StrengthInFaith
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Jun 22, 2016
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Many times I have been caught in such a predicament. My best decision was to find the one who I was truly willing to spend my time with, and I did so by asking myself a series of questions related to the people and answering them for myself. Such questions, for example, can say "who hears me out" or "who am I willing to always spend my time with".
Anonymous
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Jun 30, 2016
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Figure out what person you loved second. If you truly loved the first person, then you wouldn't have fallen in love with the second person.
kindrose302
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Jul 2, 2016
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This does happen and when it does you need to pick one of them. And if you don't some one will get hurt i promise you.
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