Spying on ex's social media - since my breakup I can't stop from monitoring. Is that okay?

yes that is ok. it is natural to see if he/she is involved with anyone else, its hard to help it, just follow your instincts

I think the important question to ask and be honest with yourself, is how does it make you feel, or how will it make you feel, finding something you don't like? Example, seeing a picture of your ex with somebody else, or seeing your ex looking happy without you. You can misinterpret both those situations, think the pic with sombody else is somebody your ex is interested in or seeing him happy may make you think he has moved on. The thing with social media is that it's just a small sliver into a person's life, and only allows you to see what the person wants you to see, and in the they want you to see it, creating an illusion of their life. This can be a really unhealthy habit if it doesn't make you feel good. And it may not allow you to accept the situation and move on with your life. Think about slowly reducing the number of times you check, busy yourself, make it hard for you to access your ex's social media, or go cold turkey and block and delete. It will be hard but worth it, and will make you feel better in the long run. Good luck!

Okay well that's up in the air. Normal definitely I would imagine we all do it a little but sooner or later you have to stop because it can become unhealthy you have to be able to move on to the next phase of your life

Typically, no. This is not an acceptable thing to do. Best bet is to delete her as a friend and then you won't have access to all her info so easy.

If you are looking at your ex's social media to find out what they are doing: who they are talking to, where they are going, what they are doing, and you feel that it is hindering your ability to move on, then don't do it. Based on the word you used here – "spying," you must feel guilty about it, and feel that it must be kept hidden. You know it is wrong. If you need to, remove your ex from your social media accounts.

No, not at all. It means that you are still forcing yourself into their life even though they are out of yours.

Not necessarily bad but it is very unhealthy. Monitoring someone after a break-up keeps them close to us, even when they do not want us. It only adds to the pain and desire of wanting them back.

It isn't. And to move on, you have to move away from this. It can be really difficult but gets easier over time. Start caring for yourself and do things that make you feel good like grooming yourself, hanging out with friends, playing a sport... whatever works for you. As you build your Life back... you'll see it's easier to deal with that urge.

Is it really the okay-ness that matters to you? Your behavior isnt exactly socially acceptable. It probably wont be easy for you to move on if you keep exposing yourself to them. Developing an obsession also wont be healthy for you or your ex. Perhaps its best to find another hobby, something that occupies your mind entirely, so you wont even think of checking for your ex's latest tweets.

That's not productive, and in my opinion leads to more heartache and makes it harder for a person to move on.