Spying on ex's social media - since my breakup I can't stop from monitoring. Is that okay?

No, it isn't. Block them if you have to. You cannot move on from a relationship until you stop obsessing about how they are doing. Over time, it gets easier.

It's natural that having been with an individual for a while, knowing them better than you know anyone else, you would be curious to see how they are doing post-break up. Whether this be for there general wellbeing, to address any concerns or suspicions you may have had, or simply to attempt to find some closure to the end of a relationship. However, the moment behaviour becomes more stalking than simply spying on their wellbeing - this may become an issue.

Stalking your ex is not the best way to go about things, mostly because that way it'll be extremely hard for you to let go and move on. Also What you're doing can be considered as stalking and that can get you in a lot of trouble.

It will get easier. The best thing to do is just monitor yourself, ask yourself: "Why am I looking? What am I hoping to find?" If those answers are unhealthy, try and cut down one step at a time. If you are just curious and still a little upset, usually the peeking subsides after a while in my experience

We have all had these urges to keep checking up on them. I personally have experienced this and think it's okay once and a while but not all the time. Sometimes if you watch them too much you might find out stuff you don't necessarily wanted to find out. Or if they are with someone else then it just makes it harder to get past the breakup..at least from my experiences. Every once in a while is okay at looking at them but not all the time.

It is a bad thing for yourself, you keep reminding yourself of that person and that only brings more unecessary pain.

"Okay" might be the wrong question -- you might want to ask yourself "is this healthy"? "Is this having a positive impact in my life?" It is rare that monitoring our exes leads to us finding resolution or closure. Instead, try to focus on yourself. Reach out to friends, connect with a listener here, find things that let you rebuild and get to know yourself again. Try to view the break up as an opportunity to explore who you might become now, when living for yourself. It is extremely difficult, but it will keep you from more heartache over time, which is the only thing that really comes from monitoring our exes and emotionally torturing ourselves.

I understand where you're coming from with this, but I believe the saying, "out of sight, out of mind" to be very true. You will find that looking at your ex's social media will only increase your thoughts on this person. Thoughts and feelings are connected, so it's important to be aware that your feelings reflect your thoughts and vise versa. It might be helpful to "block" your ex on social media - This way you are not curious as to what they've been up to, and you can't see what they've been up to. I would say spying on your ex's social media since your break up isn't a good thing and hinders you from your own personal growth. Remember - Out of sight, Out of mind. :-)

Yes it's perfectly natural. Our brain forms more nerve connections to highest pleasure activities, and unless they are replaced with something even better one will constantly feel the void. But with time due to lack of the thing which was the reason for pleasure, these connections will get reduced, and you will again be normal with some other activity as your prime cause of happiness.

It's totally normal behavior, but you want to try to fight against that urge as best as possible. After my ex and I broke up I blocked off everything, which helped me a lot in the process of getting over him